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How to help out somebody who needs to gain weight

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Thomas Kievit, Nov 6, 2013.

  1. Thomas Kievit

    Thomas Kievit Guest

    May 19, 2012
    A friend of mine is in terrible condition for a while now. She lost a lot of weight in the last 7 months and she refuses to eat decent amount of food. I am really worried that her condition will become even worse, because she now already needs to gain atleast 12 / 15 kg to get back in normal shape again.

    The thing is, I tried so many things to get her start eating good meals, but somehow she won't..

    Are there some short of shakes or whatsoever that can make it a bit easier for her to get back to normal weight?

    Cause if this goes on like this, I don't think she will hold out that long. Her size for clothings is XS and almost on the edge of XXS while she needs to have M.

    Any idea what I or somebody else can do for her?
  2. Milk


    Sep 16, 2013
    Montreal, Canada
    Sounds like your friend is anorexic (or by condition do you mean she's actually ill?). You can't just fix that by telling them to eat or giving them shakes...
  3. fdeck

    fdeck Supporting Member Commercial User

    Mar 20, 2004
    Madison WI
    HPF Technology LLC
    Does your friend have access to health care? She needs medical help -- at least to be reassured in case nothing is really wrong.
  4. Doesn't sound like it's just about not eating enough, it sounds like she has a fairly serious eating disorder and needs some medical attention, see if you can convince her to see her doctor, a psychiatrist or even to go along to a support group.

    12 to 15 kg (~25-35lbs) is a lot of weight for an average or healthy woman to lose, especially in such a short time.
  5. Yeah, she should seek counseling for a possible eating disorder. The problem is that she has to want to help herself first. After she does that, putting the wait back on will be the easy part.
  6. Thomas Kievit

    Thomas Kievit Guest

    May 19, 2012
    I wasn't really clear about that, my apology.

    She has been under psychological help for about 8 months. It doesn't sound long, but believe me, it helped a lot. She was diagnosed with Borderline (type F60.31) about a year ago. The sad part is that she used a scissor to cut her in her arms... and that happened more than once.

    In the 8 months she had psychological help, she went forward a lot and she doesn't damage her body anymore..

    But the eating part is still a problem. She gets help from a professional for that, but still she refuses to eat.. I'm more worried than ever.
  7. Epidrake


    May 24, 2011
    She should probably see a specialist in eating disorders. It's very important

    I lost a friend to this. Eventually her heart gave out. Good luck and don't give up on her.
  8. tastybasslines

    tastybasslines Banned

    May 9, 2010
    Los Angeles, CA
    Get her some herb and a bong.
  9. Thomas Kievit

    Thomas Kievit Guest

    May 19, 2012
    I won't, Epidrake :)

    Thanks for your kind words.
  10. pedroims


    Dec 19, 2007
    She needs a doctor, losing such amount of weight is abnormal.
  11. bassinplace


    Dec 1, 2008
    This might work, except for if she has an eating disorder, she won't keep the food down. She needs to see a doctor. I know nothing about this subject, but I would think if the problem is an eating disorder and she's in denial it might require an intervention of some sort from those closest to her, such as her family.
  12. Shakin-Slim


    Jul 23, 2009
    Tokyo, Japan
    You're right.

    This is not an easy road, at all. It requires a mental shift in her self-image and self-worth. Even then, these are not really issues that ever go away. I don't mean to sound pessimistic but the loved one I know with an ED is like an alcoholic. An alcoholic may always want a drink, but they know they can't and are hopefully strong enough to resist. Someone with an ED may regularly want to purge and see themselves as overweight for a long, long time. With a greater feeling of self-worth comes the desire to live healthily, even if you still don't like the way you look. That's just my 2 cents. I sincerely hope she gets better.
  13. TheFantod

    TheFantod #5 of the Pentaverate. Took Col. Sanders' spot.

    Aug 7, 2009
    Eastern N.C.
    There's a drug out there called Risperdal that gives you a crazy appetite. I dropped about 40 lbs. (approx. 18 kg) once during a really bad depression and was having trouble eating. That Risperdal turned me into an eating machine.

    Also, and if all psychological aspects are being covered, there are "weight gain" powders available to be made into shakes. They're quite good and will pack on pounds quickly. They are found in Sports Nutrition type stores.

    Best of luck to your friend.
  14. As far as shakes, frozen ensure helped when my wife was dangerously underweight and had no appetite.

    The more important thing, her seeing an eating disorder specialists like right now, has already been mentioned.

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