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how to teach my sister to drum?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Unemploid, Mar 29, 2014.

  1. so, I been looking for a drummer for our band. I'm the bassist and my bro is 21, we live in the Southern California area. our sister is 12 and she would like to learn to play the drums to play in our band. how should we teach her how to play, if we get a drumset?

    my brother is the guitarist of out band, btw.
  2. Helaskold

    Helaskold 100% Mediocre

    Jul 22, 2012
    Austin, TX
    You could probably teach her to play punk rock in about 2 months, but if you are trying to play technical death metal, you've got a couple of years before she's useful.

    I would teach my sister if she wanted to learn just for fun but I wouldn't be trying to train her to be in my band.
  3. pacojas

    pacojas "FYYA BUN"

    Oct 11, 2009
    paint the things she hates the most on each drum head. it will entice her to practice. great therapy, also. :)
  4. Buy some lessons for her at a local music store, and after you get her a drum kit, get her to put on headphones and play along with her favorite songs. FWIW: I don't think this a BM subject? Anyway, good luck and best wishes.

  5. xUptheIronsx

    xUptheIronsx Conform or Be Cast Out....

    Feb 6, 2010
    C-ville, Col, Ohio

    but seriously, having her take lessons from someone who already plays drums is the best way to get her started if she (and you) is serious. It is also the best way for her to avoid MANY of the misconceptions about playing drums (just hit hard/a monkey could do it/play simple 4\4 and you will be fine, etc...) that usually hamper new players from moving to the intermediate level. I WOULD NOT have her just watch instructional videos on Youtube, or play along to Guitar Hero or the other "online tutoring" that is out there. Once again, there are NUMEROUS important elements of drumming that those things will never cover, and that can be a hindrance to her growth.

    I am a band director, a Drum Instructor specifically, dealing with middle school to adult age students, and I spend so much time undoing "damage" to drummers that is received from uninformed people, and "educational" platforms that are out there now-a-days. Definitely invest in lessons!
  6. modulusman

    modulusman Banned

    Jan 18, 2004
    Why would you do that to your sister?:)
  7. our first drummer had been in music classes like through high school and maybe even middle school. we would really like a drummer that would help us and/or construct us with songs as he did. I know I would do my best to teach her and she will teach herself, but when playing our songs i see her doing what we say for her to do.

    they reason why we're trying to go this route, is theater our band needs to be self reliant. no more looking for drummers, drummers that don't like are style, or drummers that can't make practices. drummers we can't work with, or lazy, or their parents bought them a nice set and doesn't use it, etc.
  8. GrumpiusMaximus

    GrumpiusMaximus I've Seen Things You People Wouldn't Believe

    Mar 11, 2013
    Kent, United Kingdom
    Does your sister also share this philosophy?

    As a drummer, I have to say that if you want her to be a decent drummer, it's going to take some time. It's a much harder instrument than it looks - trust me. Get her some lessons with a decent local teacher and see where it goes. If you're expecting her to be competent within six months, you might be very well disappointed.

    To be honest, it sounds like you're going to be quite controlling of how she plays. If you are, that's really not fair on her and might put her off for life.
  9. xUptheIronsx

    xUptheIronsx Conform or Be Cast Out....

    Feb 6, 2010
    C-ville, Col, Ohio
    I definitely get where your coming from form the dedication standpoint, but she is still going to need some good fundamental direction even to understand directions that you give her. Once again, a GOOD drummer is goign to need to understand some fundamentals of time keeping, pulse subdivision etc. It isn't as simple as just following a beat that someone speaks or plays....
  10. sparkyfender2


    Nov 25, 2013
    Two words. "The Shaggs."
  11. pasmithy


    Jul 7, 2011
    SE PA
    Long time drummer turned into an aspiring "solidly fair" bass player here. We've tried this with two guys. I was teaching them and man the idea of being in a band and actually making the effort to get better than horrible were two different things... (so I ordered a beatbuddy) LOL

    That said, at least she's related to you and it sounds like she might be born to it. Get her lessons for sure. Jam with her a lot and you guys might have to "dummy down" the songs so she has a good time. Don't try and over face her, you are way ahead of her and you'll just frustrate her.Be supportive and good luck
  12. zontar


    Feb 19, 2014
    I hope they do better than that!
  13. Ukiah Bass

    Ukiah Bass Supporting Member

    May 10, 2006
    Are you expecting to gig with her? What venues will allow a 12 year old to play? Unless you're just messing around in the garage, hard to see how this can help get you out into the real world.
  14. They should be able to play everywhere.... well, except for bars - no?
  15. Do everything you can to teach her yourselves, but seriously - also get her professional drum lessons, it will speed everything up.
  16. Stick_Player

    Stick_Player Banned

    Nov 13, 2009
    Somewhere on the Alaska Panhandle (Juneau)
    Endorser: Plants vs. Zombies Pea Shooters

    Yeowza! :eek:
  17. zontar


    Feb 19, 2014
    To really appreciate them you need to hear them.
  18. Stick_Player

    Stick_Player Banned

    Nov 13, 2009
    Somewhere on the Alaska Panhandle (Juneau)
    Endorser: Plants vs. Zombies Pea Shooters
  19. Space Pickle

    Space Pickle

    Apr 15, 2013
    bahahahaha yes!
  20. GregT


    Jan 29, 2012
    Southwest Missouri
    The Shaggs: They were so bad that they were actually good!! And they don-need no stinkin' bass player too.

    To the OP. I have taught two women to play drums. It is indeed a real draw. People love it! Girls on drums rock!