Hi all, So TB I've been dating this girl who was my exgirlfriend. We've known each other since we were four, and had dated before but we broke up because of her drug/alcohol problem. However we've been back together for awhile now due to her trying to be sober. So she's been going to AA. Fine I support that. I've gone out of my way and put my life on hold to take her to meetings, pick her up, attend meetings when she didn't want to go alone. I was cool with that, no problem. I loved this girl and I really wanted her to get sober. So she's been doing the 12 steps, and is currently on step 3. She recently just got her own sponsor as well, and is rapidly approaching her 90 days. To surprise her I bought her a gold necklace I really can't afford (Two grand and I really don't know why I did it, just proud of her I guess) which I planned to give her when she got her 90 days. Over the week, we didn't talk much and I get a text "hey could you meet when I get out of this meeting at such and such place we need to talk" So I get there and we're talking and her sponsor told her she couldn't be in a relationship until she's completed the 12 steps. Now I was a little bit upset with that, but I do want her to get sober so I told her "yeah, alright, you need to do this." The rationale is that it'll make it easier for the person to concentrate on completing the 12 steps. Well it turns out her sponsor meant more than ending a relationship with me, but friendship as well. Mind you I'm the only person she talks to aside from her two cousins (whom she lives with) and people at AA. Great. I'm not even sure a sponsor can do that, or should do that. I can't talk to her, whenever I do, she tells me her sponsor doesn't want her talking to me. I'm only allowed one weekly phone call and I can't see her. (What is this prison?) So I've come to the conclusion that I hate AA. With a burning passion. I've also come to the conclusion that it is a cult as well, cutting her off from everyone but fellow members. Now I know the program has helped a lot of people, and plenty of good people are members, but I'm very angry at it right now. (This last bit is a bit irrational I know, but its 6am and I haven't really slept in a few days) Any suggestions TB? I'm very angry and confused on what I should be doing right now.