I hate my life

Hey kiddo, I am not that much older than you, but I"ll adopt you. What kind of music did you play? And was it positive to you? Tell your mom that ever since she made you break up you have had a negative outlook on life. You can always just start another band. Never give up kiddo. When you are a rich and famous bass player, and your first song is called "positive'. She'll be kinda pissed.

Keep your head up kiddo.

 

That sucks man,
punks all about sayin f**k u though. im not sayin to say that to your mum (hehehe) but if music makes you feel good and punk is what you love, you should explain to your mum.

I feel sorry for you man! i couldnt ever go without punk rock! or music at that.

- Russ 4ft

 

Give it a few years...you'll see that your Mom had good reasons for trying to guide you in the right direction (in her opinion). The world today is full of f$%ked-up kids who had no guidance.

 

Does your music degrade or threaten other people? Is it racist? Does it demean women? How about some sample lyrics for us, so we can see whether it's you or your mom who's off base.

Now, you could come live with me. We've got a few rooms available in the west wing of the house. But you'd better get used to playing country western, 'cause that's all we allow 'round here.

 

my mom/parents, have tried many times to influence the kinds of music i play, and what my (and my brothers) band sounds like....telling us that we'll never get anywhere playing the kind of music that we do...and i'm almost 20 and he's 17 (he joined the band when he was 15) - and we play something you would probably consider JAZZ!!!


then i landed the biggest gig in madison, i'm playing around 10 gigs a month, the band i have with my brother won the UW battle of the bands, and is about to record our second cd with all the studio time we won. and adam (my bro) is getting called by my peers at the UW for gigs, and he's a junior in high school.


so don't listen to your mom. practice hard and follow what YOU want to do. passion wins over doing what's "proper" 9x out of 10.



jason

 

I sure get a kick out of threads that promote going against your parents and what they say! "Do what you wanna do! Don't let your parents tell you what you can and can't do -- what do they have to say about it anyway?" They feed you, clothe you, put a roof over your head, pay for your education, cart your arse around when you wanna get somewhere, etc. What does give them the right?

When you get out into the "real" world, you'll wish you'd stayed little. I wish I had.

 

The answer is simple, just play disco stuff while she is around. You might start liking it.

 

I have to agree here. Let me preface my comments by saying that I went through the EXACT same thing at age 15 with my parents and I hated them for it, too. But now, I say:

Get over yourself and stop your whining! If you had any clue as to how small and insignifigant your band is in the whole scheme of life and what your parents are trying to accomplish, and what they are faced with, you'd run to them, fall on your knees, and beg forgiveness for even posting this. Raising kids is TOUGH! You won't face anything even close until you have your own. So cut them some slack. There will be more bands and music later when you can make your own choices and are old enough to be accountable for what you decide to do with yourself. At the moment, your PARENTS are responsible for what you do and how you develop. Those of you who are advocating that the guy ignore them and "do what you want...don't let them push you around" need to get a grip also...that's INCREDIBLY STUPID ADVICE.

 

Man, talk about different, I ran with gangs, did drugs, and all kinds of other dumb sh*t! My would've killed for me to be in a band. So, what kind of music to do you do? Is it violent, racist, etc.?

 

that's my point exactly. mchildree - you said it yourself, in the grand scheme of things, this band doesn't mean much. so what's the point in taking away a little insignificant band (who i'm guessing with the bassist being 14 doesn't gig anyways)? it's alot better than many things you could be doing.


and i'm in no way telling you to tell your mom to f-off. just explain to her that while you value her opinion, this band is too important to you. show her your lyrics (unless they're really bad!!!), explain your songs to her. i know my parents freaked out as soon as my brother got his organ and i got my stack and every song of ours was a wash of loud distortion (think medeski martin and wood, but funkier)....but in time they realized what was going on.


it just seems REALLY silly to break up your sons band, unless, again, it has violent/racist/sexist/hateful lyrics (or of course, if it's a country band ) there are much bigger things in the grand picture of parenting to worry about.


jason

 

You can make positive music and make it bad...

Can you imagine a song thats dropped B and screaming out "HELP OLD PEOPLE ACROSS THE STREET! RECYCLE ITS GOOD FOR YOU!!!"


its positive and you can make cool music. End of discussion.

 

Think about it. I'm tired of people who get angry at their parents because they don't "understand." Let me tell you what (I'm 17 by the way), your parents have BEEN THERE. They've had bad experiences. They got angry at their parents for stuff. Then they grew up, and realized their parents weren't the evil devils they thought they were.

The sooner that you realize that your parents know a stinkin' lot more than you, the better off you'll be in high school. Trust me, I learn more about it every day.

 

Mine haven't. My dad went to a military school and my mom lived WAY out in the boonies of Minnesota as an only child of fundementalist christian parents. When I started to listen to other music than what they listened to, they hit the roof

I think that's what bp13 is getting at. He's having his mom tell him what he can and cannot be. That's like having Merls parents come up to him and say "You can't be funny anymore because we don't think it's good for you." A parent has many rights and responsibilities over their child, including influencing their personality. But a parent cannot and should not try and make a drastic change like that in a child's behavior, unless it involves something illegal or severely immoral. My mom and dad have finally come to terms with the fact that I hate country and old-school folk songs (no offence to anyone who listens) and that I am a metal head. My mom even went so far as to sit down and listen to so of my albums, so that I could tell her that in fact most of the songs we NOT inspired by satan.

So, bp13, sit down and have a LONG chat with your folks. It'll help in pretty much everything.

Good luck.

Rock on
Eric

 

Sorry...but at 14 what your mother and father feel is best for you is not an "opinion". It is the rule of law and word of God all rolled into one until,of course, you turn 18 and/or move out of the house and support yourself.

I know this sounds cliche but when you get to be my age (actually alot younger) you'll realize that your parents where right about 99% of the time.

I'd say in about five years you'll have an epiphany (for those of you not near a dictionary that's a life-changing realization) relating to this...but it won't be the last. Expect to feel, again about every five years, that previously you in fact did not know sh*t, but that you are now far more mature and do finally "get it".

 

That's a good and sensible approach to this, BP13. I know it's not the most pleasant, but it'll make your life much easier. You've got a lot of years left, and only a few before you get to make all your own decisions yourself. It ain't all it's cracked up to be, either

 

BP13, Mchildree is right - you might not like it now (I know I didn't at that age), but your parents are acting in your best interests, and for now what they say goes. I read the lyrics on your site, and I've got to say that I think your mother is being a little harsh - there's nothing particularly offensive about them. Was it your own songs she took offense to, or the covers that you do?

Maybe you should start playing some Village People songs - after a bit of that, your mother will probably be relieved if you go back to singing about girls.