I hate suburbia, anyone else?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by shawshank72, Jun 6, 2020.

  1. shawshank72


    Mar 22, 2009
    Every year I get into an argument with my wife about how she would like to live in the burbs and I just can’t do it.
    She loves the country too but sometimes misses neighbours and community.
    I drove 1 1/2 hours to my buddies last Sunday for a visit/cookout in the burbs.
    Spent about 7 hours outside on a beautiful day and maybe 45 minutes of the 7 hours was actually enjoyable ambiance wise.
    Between the neighbour on the right running a table saw for 3 hours, then the neighbour behind him doing lawn maintenance for 2 straight hours, then the neighbour on the left with barking dogs and screaming kids with music blaring.
    Then deciding to rev his bike in the driveway for at least an hour.
    I don’t know how you people do it, I will never give this up.
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  2. Oddly


    Jan 17, 2014
    Dublin, Ireland.
    I gotta say, your picture makes a fantastic argument all on it's own.
    Given the option, I'd be as far from the maddening crowd as I could.
    Sadly, my wife won't leave surburbia so I'm pretty much stuck with it.
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  3. Paulabass


    Sep 18, 2017
    Suburbia is hell on earth. Everybody is over mortgaged and house poor, so their life becomes standing in the garage talking to their nieghbours about weeds. Not weed, weeds.
    Suburbia is exactly the same as working in a cubicle. Soul destroying.

    My Town surrounded me in it over the last four years. :meh:
    My place is County but all around me is now houses and people with their sounds.
    My rooster was here long before your house so... :spit:
  5. catcauphonic

    catcauphonic High Freak of the Low Frequencies Supporting Member

    Mar 30, 2012
    Seattle WA
    I'd rather have my neighbors above and below me or live like a mountain man before settling in the middle somewhere.
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  6. Lagado

    Lagado Inactive

    Jan 6, 2020
    "Is there evil but on earth? or pain in every peopled sphere?
    Well be grateful for the sounding watchword, 'Evolution' here.

    Evolution ever climbing after some ideal good,
    And Reversion ever dragging Evolution in the mud.

    What are men that He should heed us? cried the king of sacred song;
    Insects of an hour, that hourly work their brother insect wrong..."

    Alfred Tennyson - Locksley Hall - 60 Years After.
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  7. Nashrakh


    Aug 16, 2008
    Hamburg, Germany
    I have a neighbor that has twelve projects going at once, loves his motorized and extremely loud tools and never gets anything done even though he is going at it ten hours a day, even on Sundays. Bonus: it's all crooked, the guy never heard of a straight line
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  8. DaveDeVille

    DaveDeVille ... you talkin' to me ?? Supporting Member

    i don't actually "hate " suburbia , but i do love my country home .
    nearest neighbor doesn't even live there , it's their vacation home .
    one quiet road leading to my house , hill country views all around .
    life's been good to me , so far ...

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  9. buldog5151bass

    buldog5151bass Kibble, milkbones, and P Basses. And redheads.

    Oct 22, 2003
    You can be happy anywhere. You can be miserable anywhere.
  10. TOOL460002


    Nov 4, 2004
    Santa Cruz
    As long as it isn't ruled by a homeowners association, great place to raise kids.
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  11. Michedelic

    Michedelic MId-Century Modern

    I hate suburbia for entirely different reasons. I have to be surrounded by activity, stimulation, access. I’d rather be in house built at least 100 years old. Sure, it takes maintenance, upgrades, revisions possibly, but it has character, and will probably still be standing in another 100. The funny thing about those kinds of neighborhoods, the suburbs of 1900-1920, is that they can be very quiet, there are more trees, houses are closer together, and residents are generally more conscientious about noise generated. Being in the suburbs, small towns, the sticks drives me nuts. Nature is nice to visit occasionally, but once you’re there, then what?
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  12. Lagado

    Lagado Inactive

    Jan 6, 2020
    Look up the stats on mental illness/depression/schizophrenia/etc and city dwelling. It's rather slim pickings, the price of 'progress' is usually kept quiet.
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  13. Lagado

    Lagado Inactive

    Jan 6, 2020
    "Primroses and landscapes, he pointed out, have one grave defect: they are gratuitous. A love of nature keeps no factories busy. It was decided to abolish the love of nature...

    Aldous Huxley - Brave New World.
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  14. Never in a million years. I’d take full blown city living over the ‘burbs any day of the week. That said, I’m perfectly happy as a country bumpkin. I have friends that do enjoy the cul-de-sac lifestyle, but I prefer to set my own standard of living without the pressure of keeping my grass a certain height or being fined for having a pine sapling on my property. More importantly, I appreciate having healthy relationships with my neighbors...which means having a healthy distance between us. When it became time to make the leap to being a homeowner we did consider it, but I’m glad we chose to live where we do. It has its own unique challenges, but I feel the freedom and open space outweigh them by a long shot.

    I do understand that not everyone has (or might not even want) that luxury.
  15. Snakeman1066

    Snakeman1066 Supporting Member

    Sep 17, 2007
    Central Valley
    from your pictures and description I'm guessing your in the Kendall County area or there-a-bouts...?
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  16. I don't hate it. Suburbia is a lot better than a lot of places I've been. However, it's not my kind of place. I prefer it in the country. Unfortunately, there's less and less of that, anymore. Suburbia always catches up.
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  17. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    Suburbia - worst of all worlds.

    I grew up in a very small town surrounded by forest, farmland and rivers. At 20 I moved to the big city and never left. 33 years later, I’m still close to downtown and I can’t wait to get back to the country. This neighborhood was the burbs about 100 years ago! The traffic is the thing gets me down. My wife is a city kid and is not quite on board with a move to the country (yet). Retirement plan, I guess.

    But even where I live in the city, it’s walking distance to pretty much everything, incl my wife’s work. I have a 20 minute commute, ironically, to the suburbs! But I could never live there.
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  18. Lagado

    Lagado Inactive

    Jan 6, 2020
    "My father considered a walk among the mountains as the equivalent of churchgoing."

    Aldous Huxley.

    That's what it has always been for me. Whichever city I've lived in, I've scanned the nearest walks and cycle stuff available within a week or two. It's the only way I could deal with it.
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  19. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    water’s looking pretty high!
  20. Lagado

    Lagado Inactive

    Jan 6, 2020