I just got kicked out of my band....

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous [BG]' started by FalsehoodBass, Nov 7, 2001.

  1. FalsehoodBass


    Jul 22, 2001
    Denver, CO
    hey.... not necessarily bass related, but i just got kicked out of my punk band because of differing musical interests.... i'm in a punk/metal ish band... and they said that I didn't want the same sort of sound that they did... during the course of the discussion, they noted that i was "too technical" and they didn't want to ask me to play simpler... so they kicked me out of the band.. that I started.... i was a freshman in college 2 years ago and Falsehood has been my life ever since.. this is worse than any relationship i've ever ended with a girl... i truthfully don't know what i'm going to do with my time.. or what i'm going to do with an 810 and 1400 watts sitting in my living room.... i'm sure that there will be other oppertunities... but i won't ever be in a band with 4 other people who are as good or as dedicated as these guys were.. i keep thinking that they are going to get huge, and i'm not going to be there...
    I guess I just thought we could be innovative.. do something that hadn't been done before, with 2 guitars, riffs solos, etc, and a bass that did more than pounding roots and 5ths all night... The demo that I'm on is coming out soon, and i couldn't wait to show you TB'ers how punk could have a decent bass under it. I hear a lot here about how punk bass is simple and formulaic, and i wanted to disprove that. Well aparrently my band members weren't satisfied by the effort, so now i'm back to ground zero...
    alright.. i had to rant... non musicians don't understand how much it sucks.. and the musicians i used to know just ex-communicated me... so thanks if you read this far..

  2. Kraken


    Jun 19, 2001
    Aylesbury, England
    Me too man, monday night I got sacked cos my band wanted to reinstate the bass player I replaced.

    He went off to uni leaving them in the lurch, so they got me in as a replacement, and now that his course isn't working out as he'd hoped (Apparently) they are (Have) reinstated him, leaving me in the cold.

    However, I have no hard feelings towards them as they are just getting it together and are getting to the stage were they are going to start to get big, while i'm P*ssed that I won't be there, i can understand the fear that goes with something (Someone) new, as you need a lot of trust to play in a band.

    I hope, no, I know they'll go far and succeed.

    Bummed and confused

    :confused: :( :confused:
  3. Hey Falsehood, sorry to hear about the way they treated you - might have been nice to have had some warning, your ex-buddies sound a bit immature. I guess that it's not like some of the other threads where a band member ain't turning up for no good reason, or is late for gigs etc. I mean if you started the band, then I'd expect you'd know the sound of the band, what you guys were aiming for, seems kinda strange!!

    I know it's hard at this particular moment in time for ya, but you gotta bounce back,bigger and better!! You know, don't let the b******s get you down. Here's another cliche - as one door slams in your face, another opens up soon enough, find other like minded people, start somethin' big - make your buddies regret 'letting you go'!!! I think the best line is from National Lampoons Animal House - 'Don't get mad, get even'. Maybe I'm reading your misery all wrong, but if the things you'vebeen doing are important to you, don't let anyone take that away!

    Cheer up buddy, bounce back and show the world what you can do!!!! I reckon all the TBers will be rootin' for ya!
  4. Kraken


    Jun 19, 2001
    Aylesbury, England
    Good words from the reverend Johnny Boom boo

  5. There should be an empathy smiley. I'm going to give it my best shot:


    See him there in that little space? I guess he doesn't exist yet.


    Find another band and kick butt man.
  6. Joe Nerve

    Joe Nerve Supporting Member

    Oct 7, 2000
    New York City
    Endorsing artist: Musicman basses
    A few years back I lucked into getting into my favorite NYC band. Answered a bassist wanted ad that I didn't know was from them, they liked my playing. I was in.

    Toured and did local gigs with them for one year, then they gave me the same boot that you got. Only difference was they said I was "too rock and roll." No warning, just a phone call out of the blue. I've been dumped by countless girls, and nothing felt quite like this (at least as well as my memory would serve).

    Good news is life goes on, there ARE other and better bands, the pain fades - in my case the band broke up right after that :) - I like to attribute that to kharma. Bad new is I still have dreams about them, and I have a bit of an ego scar that seems to be lasting a bit longer than I'd have liked it to. My guess is I needed that dose of humility. The rejection got me to dive way more deeply into my bass.
  7. That sucks! Could there be a hidden agenda here? They could have at least asked you to simplify things a bit. So you started the band huh? Did you come up with the name as well? If you did tell them that you are taking the band name with you!

    Yeah, I know that may seem childish but they could have done things different.
  8. Hey Falsehood,
    I went to UCSB from 96-2000, and I was in a band called Free Wheeling Franklin--do you know if they are still around? Well, regardless, I know it sucks, but we're here with you, and if I hear anything from my friends up there (I live down south now) about bands looking for bass players, I'll be sure to send them your way. Good luck my man, and hang in there!
  9. I thought the same thing when I first read your post. It is one thing if a band wants someone to do more and they just can't. But in your case if they want less thats easier to do. I just doesn't make much sense.:confused:

    Sorry to hear that
  10. BigBohn


    Sep 29, 2001
    WPB, Florida
    sorry to hear about that, dude, but I know you can come back and find something else, where you're wanted and thanked for, not like those (cant say bastard so I'll say...) other bad guys you where with. And look on the bright side, with that Megoliath of yours, you'll definetely get some attention wherever you go!;)
  11. FalsehoodBass


    Jul 22, 2001
    Denver, CO
    thanks guys.. and yea.. the dreams have been coming.....
  12. LiquidMidnight


    Dec 25, 2000

    Cheer up bro. I think that musical taste is a pretty lame excuse to kick you out of your band. In my band, our lead singer likes 90's Punk Rock like Green Day, Eve 6, 3 Doors Down, ect., Our guitarist likes South American music, I like Metal like Testament, and Nevermore, and Classic Rock and our drummer likes Hair Metal, and Classic Rock. Still we get together and make, what I think, is some pretty darn good music. Look at Led Zepplin, all of those guys came from different musical backgrounds. I agree with the notion of a hidden agenda. Jealousy is a big problem in music, maybe they were jealous of attention you were getting? Anyways, you'll probaly get over the intial reaction of getting booted. Don't worry though, because you are in the best position ever to find a new band. YOU ARE A BASS PLAYER. Bass players are hard to find, and good bass players are even harder to find. You should have no problem finding a band. (If Falsehood was a popular band, you already have a good reputation that you could use to your advantage) Keep rocking bass brother, and don't give up. :)
  13. Thats pretty harsh man, but dont worry.
    You shouldnt give up, why not start a band yourself where you write most the material?
    I know what you mean about punk bass,being in a punk band myself i thought like you and iput solos in our songs all the time,i also add a little slap.
    You should form a band mate, show your ex band what theyre missing.

    2 words, Matt Freeman.

    Do it man!!

    - Russ
  14. ColonelZulu

    ColonelZulu Not Impressed By Those Who Flaunt “Authority” Supporting Member

    Apr 14, 2001
  15. Sorry man. Don't worry. you will get into a new band.
  16. whoa you didn't mention the cab was a megoliath!! :)
  17. Captain Awesome

    Captain Awesome

    Apr 2, 2001
    I can't stand those anti-skill Nazis who condemn any good musicianship as "wanking"... they make the rock world so boring :mad:
  18. john turner

    john turner You don't want to do that. Trust me. Staff Member

    Mar 14, 2000
    atlanta ga
    wow, dude, that sucks totally. i'm really sorry to hear that happen.

    i can especially respect that you were trying to do something more than just thump and pump. i've had a bunch of guys treat me like that in the past because i wanted to do more than just support their egos on my instrument.

    stick to your guns - your endeavors to rise above the cliche punk player are noble.
  19. Bass Brother FB,

    The key to success in life is the abiliity to turn today's seeming adversity into tomorrow's opportunity.

    You sound like someone creative and devoted enough to find a better mob to work with, and in time those folks you just left behind will appear lame and one-dimensional.

    Good Luck, & Aloha,

  20. Goodluck bouncing back man.

    I live in Southern California, if I ever hear the call for a bass I'll make sure to PM you man. And trust me, there are ALOT of calls for bass. Alot of the stuff isn't that good though, but if I ever hear of a noteworthy band or potentially goodplayers in your area I'll make sure to tell you.