Everybody is entitled one genuine "advice thread", right? I'll try to explain as best as I can: A few months ago, my roommate decided that she wanted to move in with her boyfriend. Fair enough, I thought, but we are signed to a lease that runs until May 1, 2010. So she initially gave me the strong impression that she wanted to me move out, so her BF could move in, and they would then have the 2-bedroom apartment to themselves - pretty sweet for them, right? But not so good for me - I would have to go through the hassle of moving, the cost of moving in both time and money, and most importantly - I would likely end up having to sign another one year lease - not a good thing since my current lease and my university education end at the same time, thereby providing me with the optimal conditions for moving with respect to job prospects (or even better, a new job). Well, after some deliberation, I decided that I'd rather deal with another roommate for a half year instead of a whole new lease and the hassle that would ensue. So we come to the agreement (her rather unhappily) that she would have to find someone to take her room in a sublet, so her and her BF could find a new place - frankly speaking, I like where I live and I don't want to leave. As time progresses, I hear almost nothing about this new roommate, nothing about a sublet... So I start to get suspicious. Asking her, she claims to have talked to the landlord, who said it's ok for her to move out Oct. 1, so long as she find a subletter. I talk to my landlord around sept. 1 and he claims that my roommate has not called him once, ever, about anything - most definitely not about moving out and finding a subletter. ****. So I field numerous phone calls and emails between the two (she is too broke to afford her phone, so she doesn't have minutes on it). The outcome: She is going to move Nov. 1, provided she finds someone to take her room. Here's where it gets sticky. The chick is my ex. She hates my guts. She is incapable of talking to me about this move without getting hysterical. I won't deny that I have been watching out for my best interests, but whenever we talk, she paints me as the devil. It is absolutely impossible to have a rational conversation with her, because the moment she hears something she doesn't like, she goes ballistic - yells, curses, insults, and either slams the door or hangs up the phone. Not exactly the best conditions for negotiating a change to a contract. I'm sure it infuriates her more that I have remained calm through every interaction, but freaking out just isn't my style. Screaming and emotional outbursts aside, she managed to get one person interested in the room so far, but he openly admitted to me that he is a pothead. In response I told him that it's his business what he smokes, but it's our business if he brings illegal drugs and other drug users into the house I live in, and that is not something I can abide. I haven't heard back from him. I suggested via email that she specify "no drugs" in the ad for the room, and, as usual, she flipped. Her latest outburst - a message on the fridge(heavily edited): "I have stopped payments on the postdated rent cheques, so it's up to you to find someone, or you will be kicked out as well." She is obviously not being rational. She is signed to a contract that she has not taken the proper legal steps to get out of. Which brings me to one of the few communities I know - virtual or not - where I can count on rational responses from relatively unbiased people. First: Does her threat hold any weight? If one of two people in a lease stops paying rent, what happens to her and more importantly, what happens to the other person (me)? What legal avenues (if any) can I pursue, both to preserve my legal status, and to to ensure that myself and my landlord are not at risk of being totally screwed? What would you do in this situation? While the onus is clearly on her to find a tenant to take her room, it is evident that I cannot trust her to do with with a modicum of success. Should I just bite the bullet and find someone myself, or should I investigate legal options to ensure that she is held accountable for her contractual obligations? I'm at the end of rope in terms of frustration - I'm in my last year of school(full time night classes) , working full time during the day as well and I'm just way to busy and old at heart to be dealing with such nonsense at this stage in my life - hell, I'm turning 27 in a couple of days and the last thing I want is this crap hanging over me on my birthday. I want this over with, but I don't want to get bent over and violated in the process. In a nutshell, what would you do, Talkbass?