I think I may have messed up my image in the local scene, I'm not sure. I used to contribute my drums and bass rig to a jam session at a local bar on tuesday nights. I had a deal with "Fred" (the host) that I would bring in my gear for the open mic and he would buy my beer all night. Cool, cuz I don't drink a lot anyway, and it gets me out on the scene to network, so even better. I stopped going about two months ago because the fuel pump in my car went out, so, no way to haul gear. Haven't been back since. Let me say a few things about "Fred" first. he is a stage hog. he has a few dudes that jam with him for the first two hours every time and people have had their slot pushed back because a friend of "Fred" has come in. He drinks too much and gets on stage in the middle of their set because he thinks he is contributing, but he isn't amazing when he's sober, so it doesn't help him. People laugh at him because he stumbles all over the stage, so he keeps doing it. "Fred" has ripped a microphone out of my hand when I was going to front vocals on a doors tune and said "you ain't singin' this ******' song". So, not exactly someone that people like being around regularly. "Fred" posted today on a facebook community page for musicians in my area and asked why nobody has come to his tuesday night open mic/jam session the last few weeks. I said something like 'honestly, you hog the stage until your bass player goes home. I've seen people come in with their guitars and a few of their friends to watch them that get tired of waiting and go play for their friends out on the sidewalk. you need to focus on being a host more than playing with your band all night. I've spoken about this with several other people and I wanted to find a way to tell you tactfully, but you asked, so there you go.' (I would copy and paste but "Fred" is an admin on the page and deleted the thread earlier.) I didn't think that was disrespectful at all. This turns into how I'm making it up because I won't tell him who the people are, I'm a ***** because I didn't ask him to play enough, I'm insecure because of his other bass player that showed up, I'm disrespectful because I said all of that in a public forum... I know it's a ridiculous response, I guess I just want to know if any of you think that I handled this wrong?