Apparently I am lacking a sense of humility because he doesn't like how I assert myself. He thinks, since I am the new guy, I should be more agreeable and open minded, and said because I'm not, to him, that I am coming across as (unintentionally) arrogant. He didn't really point out specifically when I did any of that, except for one example which I posted a thread about: me disagreeing to wear any sort of costume/outfit... even though I compromised by wearing dark shirts, which is something I'm not super into. I don't know... maybe I am arrogant, maybe I am not... I am sick of all this kinda crap and would rather just focus on music instead of having silly discussions and letting petty things get in the way. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how he came up with the idea that I am arrogant, when I think he is perhaps the most opinionated and arrogant person I know, and despite that, I choose to keep that to myself. He has a reputation for this, especially because he, being a militant atheist, feels the constant need to bash christians (and no I'm not one, but at least I have respect). He also has a history of his arrogance leading to band breakups. The only thing I can think of is that he is a textbook narcissist and lacking self awareness.