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Is anybody here married to their music?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by KingCrimson, Apr 5, 2009.


  1. KingCrimson

    KingCrimson

    Oct 6, 2008
    Seriously, way i see it is i'm young and the only stable thing is music, relationships pass and go but you will always have youre musical drive.

    I see kids here who are or could be phenomenal musicians and band mates but it is always their girlfriend first and the music second and the band doesn't go anywhere.

    Albeit it sure is awkward getting that through a girls head, but alas as big of a **** i may sound its my passion and i won't give it up, i'm not married. And it goes for any situation, i always see it as an uplifting thing, like "well i have THIS" no matter what **** you may go through, be it getting fired, screwing up BIG TIME, going through a rough family situation, getting cheated on by a partner or whatever.

    Anybody with me on this??


    (BTW i just got accepted in one of the best music programs in the country, studying my ass off paid off:D)
     
  2. Well, I hate to be a downer, but you can lose your passion for music, too.

    Just sayin'.
     
  3. KingCrimson

    KingCrimson

    Oct 6, 2008
    Yah, sstrue, but its a lot more dependable then a lot of things
     
  4. hbarcat

    hbarcat Supporting Member

    Aug 24, 2006
    Rochelle, Illinois
    There have been very few things that I've cared about in life but ever since I picked up the electric bass in 1986 I have been completely dedicated to it. Other passions have come and gone (the wife left years ago and I don't miss her at all) but I have put in a solid number of hours every week for the past 23 years playing bass.

    I freely admit that this is selfish of me and I have friends and acquaintances who tell me that I should spend more time on making money (my wife said this all the time) and socializing like normal people. But I don't want to - I've got bass playing to do.
     
  5. Stumbo

    Stumbo Wherever you go, there you are. Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 11, 2008
    the Cali Intergalctic Mind Space
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    Practicing your craft (like any other craft) is a solitary endeavor. Many people (except for hbarcat) don't have the fortitude to stick with it.
     
  6. BassChuck

    BassChuck Supporting Member

    Nov 15, 2005
    Cincinnati
    I had a teacher tell me once that the three things that keep musician from becoming all that they can are: Drugs, Sex, Religion... and in no particular order of importance.

    There are a lot of choices in life. The world is full of people who could have been something else.
     
  7. I think a relationship can work, if you both share a passion for creative endeavors, and understand that the other person gets just as obsessive as you do about being creative. It helps if both of you share the same creative obessions (bass), but even if the creativity is in different areas (2 musicians; musician and artist, etc.) it's not bad. It's when one of the pair is passionate about the creative endeavor, but the other person doesn't - and can't, doesn't or won't understand that passion - who can't stand the fact they're going to very frequently come in second in the first person's affections, thoughts, time, etc. -there WILL be problems.
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  8. MakiSupaStar

    MakiSupaStar The Lowdown Diggler

    Apr 12, 2006
    Huntington Beach, CA
    I gladly cheat on my wife for my music. I think it's more exciting if I keep my music as a dirty backdoor lover than as a wife.
     
  9. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Supporting Member

    Apr 12, 2001
    Olympia, WA
    I never got attached to music. Maybe when I was in my early teens going through the "rock roolz, rap and country sukz!" stage I felt a little more attached to music.

    As for playing, I can take it or leave it. Playing in front of a crowd is cool and all, but I only did it for the attention. It was fun being a rock star on some nights. But when I got burned out, it was nothing for me to sell all my gear and find something else to do with all my newly found free time.

    -Mike
     
  10. middy

    middy

    Mar 14, 2007
    Texas
    Married? Heck no, why ruin a good relationship?
     
  11. Mark Wilson

    Mark Wilson Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2005
    Toronto, Ontario
    Endorsing Artist: Elixir® Strings
    I'm happily married to music. Have been for 17 years.

    Music's always been the one thing I can rely on to motivate me, make me feel better, push me to be better, and relax me.

    I wouldn't give up music for anything.

    Even though right now, with my final juries coming up, Music is a cheating whore. But I love her regardless.
     
  12. MakiSupaStar

    MakiSupaStar The Lowdown Diggler

    Apr 12, 2006
    Huntington Beach, CA
    HaHa. Only Wilson could figure out a way to make his own music cheat on him. Masterful fail, good sir. Simply masterful.
     
  13. Mark Wilson

    Mark Wilson Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2005
    Toronto, Ontario
    Endorsing Artist: Elixir® Strings
    I blame Jazz.
     
  14. MakiSupaStar

    MakiSupaStar The Lowdown Diggler

    Apr 12, 2006
    Huntington Beach, CA
    I blame your lack of win.
     
  15. L-A

    L-A

    Jul 17, 2008
    Eh?
    I'm not married to it. But girls usually watch me do music, then they say "do me too".
     
  16. doctorjazz

    doctorjazz

    Oct 22, 2006
    Wilmington, NC
    Same here. Music isn't really a cheating whore for me, though, but she is pretty abusive at times. The kind of girl that claws you in the face with her nails, openly mocks your manhood and causes you to storm out the door and swear never to come back, only to have her call you the next day and lure you back home with promises of sweet, freaky love.
     
  17. Mark Wilson

    Mark Wilson Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2005
    Toronto, Ontario
    Endorsing Artist: Elixir® Strings
    Very true.

    I retract my last statement, and take credit for the one that I just quoted.
     
  18. I wish, I pay so much for music that it's more comparable to an overpriced escort service that never really leaves you feeling fulfilled.
     

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