It's hard to put a guy out of the band that he put together. But we just did that. About a week ago, Ron, the drummer, called a meeting of everyone except Dick, the BL. I had an idea what it was going to be about, especially when he mentioned "personnel changes". Dick has made it clear that he is the BL, and it's his way or the highway. We've been together for around two years, with the covid break, and had finally started gigging. But Dick is so overbearing, and such a pompous boob that no one is having fun. Dick is fond of saying, "This isn't a democracy." OK, I know we need to have a band leader, and I also know it's not going to be me. So I don't mind someone coming up with set lists, etc, if that's what they want to do. I like having some input, however, and that wasn't happening. In any case, Dick has a hard time getting his parts right (guitar), and is generally crabby and insulting with everyone. I'm not a very confrontational guy, so I kind of backed off and played my bass. I can sing, but Dick wants to sing, even though he can't carry a tune in a bucket. He has lots of mics, but none of them make him sound good. Still, he's going to sing, come hell or high water. We have a lead singer, Lana, who is really great. Great front person, fantastic voice. Dick wants to sing harmonies with her, but he can't even find the melody. When we had our meeting (without Dick), I found that Ron, Don (keyboards), and Lana all had much deeper anger and resentments than I did. I mean, I don't like being insulted and ordered around, but these guys were serious. So, either the band was going to split up, or we were going to get rid of Dick. I pointed out that Dick started the band, and brought us all together, although I think Ron and Don have played together before. I said that it was kind of a rough deal to throw out the guy who started the band. Everybody agreed, but Ron pointed out that after two years, Dick was still goofing up the same guitar leads, was still overbearing, and hadn't improved. Alas, this is true. Also, due to the conflicts engendered by Dick, we were in danger of losing Lana. So today was the meeting. Ron had said he was willing to be the [anal orifice], but he wanted us all to be there to let Dick know that this was a band thing, and not just him. But then after we had aired our grievances, Ron didn't deliver the final blow. I said, "Should we get to the point?" I was surprised that he was beating around the bush, even though things were getting a bit heated. Everybody looked at me. So I looked at Dick and said, "We want to be done with you." I figure that's pretty clear. I've been thrown out of a band in the past. I didn't like it. So I didn't want to be the one to drop the hammer, but suddenly everyone had stage fright. Oh well. Just so you know, we're all seasoned citizens, the youngest being 57. We really didn't want to hurt Dick, but we wanted to take steps to be more than mediocre, which won't happen with Dick on guitar. None of us expects to make a living doing this, but we do want to have some fun, and be able to talk to each other without the BL always butting in.