Keeping someone around for the benefits?

I can tell you that I, personally, would have a pretty tough time justifying this guy being in my band. Then again, it sounds like these guys have different goals than I do. I don't care about being in a band full time and getting signed. Even if I did, I don't think I could tolerate this situation. People who don't pull their own weight get on my nerves.

The real answer is that they just have to weigh out the pros and cons and figure it out for themselves.

 

Darn, I though this was gonna be about a girl you don't particularly like anymore.........

Sadly, sperm boy will never do them any good, with all the contacts and money in the world. His type will probably never get it together, so 'the industry' will never touch the band.

You obviously don't really want to get involved, so don't, even though you want to help.

 

If they want to attract a bass player that does more than someone who, "spends all his time getting stoned and not following up on commitments," they're going to have to start being more serious themselves. The only person in the band who seems worth a damn (musically/business wise) is the drummer. I'd stear clear; being in friend's bands is like loaning a friend money; just a bad idea, and it changes the dynamics.

 

In a band you're either in it to play "for real" ... or your not!

Having the right mix of members and giving it your all, is gonna get you farther than having a token member in there for some percieved benefit.

... A band, artist, songwriter whatever is not going to "make it" without all of the right stuff (and some luck)

 

There's your real answer. The rest of the stuff about their current bassist, his connections, his lack of talent, etc. is not relevant to YOU and your current situation. When you are finished splitting time between home and college you will have to reevaluate the situation. But for now you have decided not to compromise the timely completion of your degree. Wise decision. Go with that. IMHO

 

I kept my ex wife around for a little longer than I wanted to, in hopes of using some of her income to pay off a traffic ticket I had coming my way. Though we were at a wedding and I just couldnt take her bitching anymore. I kicked her to the curb and paid the ticket myself, after an extension.

 

If the guy is major "Fecal Blow" wouldn't he eventually hurt the other cats, even though he's connected?

Connections only go so far. The connections will find a polite way to tell the guy and his parents that he isn't that good and worlds will collide and egos will be crushed.

Being a member of the lucky sperm club can often be worse than not. You're then looked upon to excel your parents, and tragedy occurs when you can't/don't for laziness or lack of effort.

God Bless, Ray

 

sounds like you'd be better off suggesting to the drummer that the two of you start a side project together; sounds like the other members of this band aren't heading for the same goals, nor willing to put the time & effort needed into the band to really get there. From your comments it isn't just their current bass player who isn't putting much of an effort into the music.

 

What's the purpose of a rehearsal space & industry contacts? The first is to get better, so the second will hire you. Apparently rehearsal isn't improving things, so they might have the priviledge of being rejected by the best Industry Contacts in your area.

 

Since he's the kid of prominent musicians he probably has loads of innate musical talent. Maybe HE should dump the freeloading band and get a better one.

 

They don't have a real band.

Don't worry about it. Just be glad you're not in the band.

Finish your degree. Maybe jam with them when you're home.

Have fun with that and concentrate on your education.

It's not your battle so I suggest you don't waste brains cells worrying about it.

 

Sounds like the only one worth anything in the group is the drummer. If it were me (and it's not but...), I'd probably encourage the dummer to seek a better situation and to keep in touch. When you are done with school and/or have time, you may be able to get somewhere with this dummer (and his 'new' situation). The guitarist and singer sound like they are not much more together than the celebrity brat kid. I'd just let those 3 chase their tails off into the sunset.

Life is just too short to waste time on...wastes of time.

 

Scoring:

9.6 for confusion factor, aka 'Whaa_?'
8.9 for irrelevancy
9.8 for "drunk dial" posting

jes messin' wit ya!

 

This.

When I was younger ( a long, long, time ago...) we use to keep losers in the band because they had instruments or garage to use...I guess some things never change!

Russ