For several years I have been involved with people that have held me back (I was holding myself back as well.) I have turned down some playing opportunities because I was waiting for them to "want" to play. A while back the band started to make a little noise in the area, but when we cut some nice demos that was the beginning of the end. One guy had some really crazy notion that we should be getting 1200.00 a night to play in small clubs. Another only wanted to play stuff that he though was cool-songs most bands would play would be beneath him. During this time, I worked on putting a good PA together (starting with a zero budget.) Any sizeable amount of money that I had at any time went toward upgrading and adding on. I spent that money for the greater good. Because of that I always had parts basses or stuff I fixed up out of boredom. Most of the time is wasn't politically correct (it didn't say Fender or Gibson on it.) I never asked for any additional cut from any gig (and none was offered.) Occasionally I would hear "you know what would be cool?" and I would say "yeah, that's something we could get if we all go together." That would be the end of that. Once after a gig, one of them approached me and said "_____ and I agreed that if you have a cabinet that size it should say "Ampeg" on it. On the outside I kinda laughed it off, but it made me about as angry as I have ever been in my life. A month ago, I sent them an email letting them know that I was liquidating my PA, that is wasn't worth keeping it for a group that has no interest in playing. I started the process and it feels really good. I am using that money to put together a really, really nice rig. I am shopping for some really nice basses too! Instead of being in a band I am going to be a sub. I hope I don't come off as a battered wife, it's just I had high hopes and I hung on as long as I could.