(1st time poster. Feel free to move if there's a more appropriate forum.) I am playing 4/4 rock and country style originals with a drummer who often plays the kick on 1 and the "&" after 3. I am having difficulty locking in with him and feel his kick placement is adding tension in the music (for example, the timing doesn't seem to match the rhythm of the vocal line). I have asked if he might shift to the playing on the downbeat of 3, or even the & before 3. He has tried but tends to slip back to playing the kick on the & after 3. Is this drum rhythm -- kick on the & after 3 -- typical? I am probably described as a low intermediate player and admit I haven't always concentrated on the drum patterns as much as I should. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance.