So I've finally reached the point where I can count the number of friends I have on one hand. [and i'm missing a pinkie finger, so that oughta tell ya something. j/k]. It's nice being able to know "who your real friends are," however, I kinda want some new hangmates. My very best friend lives in Seattle, so naturally the logistics of that friendship are tough. We do communicate by e-mail a lot, though. My other best friend got married, had a kid, moved to Virginia, and never connects, so that one's dying a quick death. My other best friend is in New York, but she's gay, and our lifestyles don't always synch up. I have another possie of friends -- people i've known since jr. high school, but with the exception of one of them, i basically consider these chicks to be my drinking buddies. I don't have much in common with them, nor do I have much admiration and respect for them. In short, they're dumb. It's really hard to make friends with other women, since most of the ones my age spend a lot of their energy on their children, or their career. I've met a few bassist chicks, but they were a lot younger than me. I'm less concerned with meeting other women who share my extracurricular interests than I am in just meeting women who are cool. I'd like someone with whom i can have a good intellectual exchange of ideas, and go to the movies or shopping or play tennis with. In short, just another good friend or two. What's yer suggestion? And do you have the same difficulty in finding new friendships after 30, and thus make your dog your best friend? 'that's what friends are for...'