Hey Guys, Background information: Band 1: I posted in November about a working band that I nailed the audition for. It's still going really well with them and I know about 100 songs note for note perfect now (and now practice them in different keys a lot =) We've been gigging at least once a month but up to 4 times. They are all really good guys and normal...the band is taking off a bit better and we're starting to get booked later in the year for some much better gigs. They are my main priority for all of the above reasons. Band 2: I'm also playing with another set of guys every Thursday. This was something I started with a friend in October. We got a singer\rhythm guitar and drummer by late Nov. We only have about 20-25 songs down together in that time. I would say only about 10 are gig ready enough to meet my expectations. The friend\lead guitar and I always show up very prepared and know our parts inside out. The singer\guitar player and drummer say they learn the songs on their own time but it seems like they treat these sessions more as practice time than getting a band songlist put together. They both have kids and wives where as we don't. Once they know the songs really well, stuff sounds good but getting to that point has really started to grate on me. I've said some things like, "if you aren't ready to play a song just send an email out and we'll move it to next week." Instead they say, "oh I thought I had it down really well." Band3?: Last week I auditioned for an originals band that is local to me (the other two bands take me 45mins to drive to rehearsals). I learned the only 5 songs they made available online by ear in a day and showed up to the audition. I really like their sound, the singer has a great voice and it seems like we have good chemistry. They gave me their CD and asked me to come back to play again saying they were really impressed. The guitarist wrote me yesterday and told me to go ahead and write my own parts to the songs (a lot of the parts mimic the guitar a bit too much, IMO so I was happy to hear that) I guess I should mention that I'm a busy guy by nature. I goaltend at least once a week, rockclimb, lift 4 days a week and do a lot of hiking to train for big mountaineering Alpine adventures that I do a few times a year as well as a few other hobbies thrown in less frequently. Questions: -- If you were me would you stay in all three bands? -- How prepared should you expect guys with babies or young children to be? -- What's a good time frame for when you get band members together for a cover band and then play your first show? My thoughts: I don't think I'm biting off more than I can chew with the third band considering I won't be needing to learn new songs every week, they'll gig less than a cover band and it'll give me a more creative outlet. I don't think it's decided that I'm in band 3 yet but I'm pretty sure it's my spot to lose. With how well the 1st band is going the 2nd band is sort of redundant, esp. since we've never even done a gig. We play almost all different songs which is good (although more work =) My guitarist friend is in another band so I don't think he would be heartbroken -- but I was really excited to start playing live with him. The other two guys have been in a lot of bands in the past but aren't in any other right now. Since I started this band with the guitarist I think maybe I should ask them to get their **** together if this continues after the next rehearsal. Also say that we should book a date for a gig, even a free opening thing just to finally play out. If they don't then I should say I'll try to help you find a new bassist but I don't think this is working for me anymore.