Whenever it comes to discussing members of the opposite sex, she refuses to treat me like I'm over the age of 12, and acts like she's about 14. It's getting pretty old, and I told her so, and now my dad says she's just sulking around the house and wondering what she ever did wrong. I've tried to be more understanding in the past and she's always promised to change her behavior but she never does, and I guess I finally just snapped. I've had people tell me to just suck it up and deal since it's my mom and she squeezed me through her vagina and all, but she's been doing this to my brother for years as well, and the relationship between my brother and mother is not particularly healthy. The real issue is that she can't understand the idea of a man and a woman being friends and not being romantically involved, and she thinks that romantic involvement should lead to marriage within 6 months of the first date. I'm amazed that my folks' marriage has worked out so well because on paper it looks horrible--they'd spent maybe 20 hours together and been on 7-8 dates before they got engaged. The thing is, she's admitted that she does a lot of what she does just to tweak me, and I don't think a parent should do that to their child. My father and I can talk on an adult-to-adult level now; why can't my mom do it, too? My mom is paranoid and irrational and downright bigoted about a lot of things, but I can tolerate that; it's that she won't allow me the dignity of having the personal life of an adult that bothers me. I realize that at 21 I'm still a young'n, but I'm getting to the age where it's none of her damn business. A lot of this is just venting, but what should I do here?