Well, me and my girlfriend have fairly different tatses when it comes to music. She's much more of a 'personal tragedy' type girl, who likes Korn, My Ruin, Staind, Creed etc. She has very varied taste in music, with stuff from Bryan Adams to Cradle Of Filth. She doesn't have a lot of favourite bands however, she owns copied CD's of bands(which I abhor) and a lot of CD's that she doesn't really listen to regularly, and is a casual music fan. She doesn't have much faith in bands, and says that any band who releases a CD has sold out. Me, I'm a loyalist. I am into 27 bands, and I own 54 CD's, no copies. I am constantly looking for new music to listen to, but I thoroughly research it first in order to ensure I don't get bored and have to sell the CD(I'm a scrooge and I don't like ripping a band off, no matter how much I dislike them). This often means that I get into bands that are very technically advanced, and give me something new every time I give them a listen, such as Pantera, Meshuggah, Skinlab or Primus. I don't have time for pop music, it's a sign of the state of the world. Ergo, I don't really like commercial rock or metal, such as Staind, Limp Bizkit, Papa Roach, Linkin Park, Alien Ant Farm and such. It's unoriginal, and it seems to be here because MTV(and therefore the trendy people) say it is. However, my girlfriend likes some of these bands, in fact most of them. She says she can identify with lyrical content like Aaron Lewis's or Coby Dick's. I'll be the first to admit her life has been pretty shi**y. She lost her virgnity in a naive one night stand, went into drug abuse, started smoking, was into self mutilation for a long time and went into a relationship with a man who beat her up and sexually assaulted her. She was also nearly raped. Now, she's cleaned up her act, started to before she met me in fact, she's off the drugs(has been for 2 years) and I'm weaning her off the cigarettes(8 year habit). She often wants to cut herself, which she used to counter by smoking dope, which I'm totally against and will dump her for(bad experiences with weed on my part), but fortunately she hasn't been depressed enough to do for a long time. However, me being the insensitive guy I am, I tend to pick holes in a lot of her favourite bands. I don't buy Papa Roach, Staind, Linkin Park. It's a little too obviously commerical to me. My problem is that she takes it personally. She thinks because I call a band like Staind's message non-existant, which I truly believe it to be, she thinks I am trivialising her past. I've explained to her that it is not her past, or even her taste that I am criticising, simply the artists. She seems to think I am calling her a mindless puppet, as I refer to the hordes of wannabe rebellious teenagers, because she likes these bands. I'm not sure what to do. Do I keep my mouth shut and repress myself, just to keep her happy? Or do I continue expressing myself to my full extent and risk offending her to the point I lose her(I love her to bits)? we both love music, and share a mutual love of a few bands(Pantera, Slipknot, Fear Factory), although our tastes do differ quite a bit. Is there a creamy middle to this situation? I don't want this relationshsip to end, all the other stuff is too great to miss. Thanks in advance, PF P.S. I also need some arguments as to why a band releasing a record is not selling out. I couldn't find it in the damn search, I've seen it here on TB. She maintains that any released CD is done so purely for material gain, thereby making the band a sellout. She doesn't care whether the bands she listens to have sold out(personal tragedy and helping someone identify with music is her reason for listening, rather than socio-political reasons like myself), as it isn't a problem for her. Please help me give a good answer on this one, I know it's BS but I can't structure a well-rounded argument. Thanks again.