Late last year I was asked to join a band by some acquaintances. These guys are very connected and well known in the music industry here. The lead guitarist is a Grammy nominated writer and writes for Billboard top 100 artists. The other guys ghost write some very popular rock artists albums. The singer actually asked me to join several of his projects but I told him I only had time for the one. I'm the youngest, least experienced guy (though I'm mid 30s and very experienced). Fast forward several months, we rehearse, things sound great. I always make sure to be on time, polite, professional and know the songs before rehearsal. Only one snag might be guitar guy asks me to improv some cover songs he pulls out during practice and I can't figure them out right away *shrug* We do one gig at the Whisky and it went really well! They praise my performance but seem less than enthused with the gig as it isn't exactly up to the big standards they are used to... okay, no big deal. The holidays come, everyone kinda takes a break, I see them at bars and tell them I'm excited to keep going forward, to please let me know when we can get back together. They assure me we will. Then this Covid-19 crisis has everyone on lockdown. I see them posting about getting together on social media to write and record new material for our band. I message them all saying "I would love to get together to work on the music, let me know when and I'll be there!" they say... "Oh yeah of course, we will let you know" .... another month, nothing. Now they are posting pictures of just the 4 of them talking about "the new album" I haven't even heard any of the new music yet. So I text them separately along the lines of, "Hey it would be great to get together with everyone and I'm ready to work on new music" they say "For sure, we need to do a photoshoot with everyone"... yet still... nothing and they keep posting updates. So at this point, am I just a guy who is there to play bass or am I an actual member of the band? They never gave me any tabs or music in the first place, just pointed me to the albums online which I learned by ear. I was instructed to "just keep the low end tight". Do they really not care about the bass or like, it's not at all important? I'm not being paid, but would just kinda like to know where I stand. Sorry I'm just really bummed and have no one to express it too. At this point contacting them again would be nagging so idk. Feels like a adolescent relationship "so are we a couple or...? " F*&$%!