Apologies ahead of time for the long post. Scroll to the bottom for a short summary if you want the quick lowdown. I’m in a band playing RB, Soul and Classic Rock. I’m fairly new to the group having been here for only three months and so far I’m having the time of my life. The ‘music, money, hang’ rule has all three boxes checked. I love the setlist, we’re getting tons of gigs and up to now everyone gets along really well, which at this point of my musical life is the most important thing to me. Well, I knew it had to happen eventually but we’ve hit our first ‘bump’ and I’d like to get everyone’s opinion on it. This is a fairly “non-techie” group with the exception for me as I’m an IT engineer by day. I’ll get straight to the point. The bassist I replaced used to run the sound and he owned the PA so he took with him when he left. The band decided to purchase a Soundcraft UI24 digital board but the problem is, they don’t know how to operate it. The first gig I played with them was feedback city and they had no idea how to take corrective action. Being super excited about the new band, I chipped in when possible and it didn’t take them too long to figure out that I’m a pretty fast study when it comes to understanding software UI’s so I figured out the board quickly. However, I made it clear that I’m a rookie sound man at best. I understand the concepts but I've never actually run live sound before however it's apparent that I'm the most capable in the group to do this, even given my limited experience and skills. So, the band asked me if I’d be willing to take a stab at running sound and I reluctantly said yes. I kind of figured it out and it turns out that I can get a pretty good sound and ring out the system if given enough time but, I’m still running this thing from the seat of my pants as I have no formal live sound training. It takes me a while to hunt down stuff like problem frequencies and troubleshoot tough rooms. Fast forward…what started out as a “thanks so much, just do what you can” scenario has turned into a “I need this in my monitors, the FOH sounds muddy, I need this, I need that, etc. The others help load in and break down but it’s gotten to the point where the management of the sound is ALL on me and I don’t even have time to setup my bass rig until 5 mins before downbeat. I’m then basically stressed out the first set of every gig worrying about the sound, listening for possible feedback and making adjustments on the fly all while playing. Compounding the issue is that the board belongs to the drummer and even though he has no idea how to run it for live sound, he likes to ‘fiddle’ with it live while I’m trying to do my work and we sometimes have a little PA power struggle going on sometimes. The tipping point was this past Friday. I basically spent over an hour tuning the room and I had the place sounding GOOD. Right before I had the chance to save the show on the board (and 15 mins before showtime), someone unplugs the mixer to make room for their wall wart AC adapter on the power strip and I lose all the work from the past hour. I kept my cool on the outside but in my head I’m saying ‘freaking Melon Farmer’ (The Goldbergs reference for anyone paying attention!) . Anyway yes, shame on me for not clicking save earlier but I was just about to, as I do before every show starts. When the board powers back up, all of the feedback returned and the room sounded like dookie. I had to take a walk outside to cool off. I return and it’s time to play and now I’m trying to chase gremlins on the fly. At this point it's also affecting my singing and bass playing as well because now I’m extra stressed plus I’m pretty pissed off. The final straw is during the first set - drummer guy starts to yap at me that his monitor mix is horrible and that he can’t hear anything. I basically snapped internally. It’s his mixing board and he has his laptop connected to it. If he has an issue with his sound he has the tools in front of him to make the corrections. The problem is, he doesn’t know how so he decides to complain to me about it. I finish out the rest of the gig and I politely and in a civil manner tell these guys how I feel and that we either need to either do this as a group so it's not all on me (which is unlikely to happen because of the skillset required) or that we need to hire a real sound man and pay him as a band member. We’re busy enough to be able to afford it but now I’m hearing grumblings about having another mouth to feed and how it’s going to affect the band members pay, etc, etc. I guess the reason for this post is1) to vent and 2) get everyone’s opinion on the matter. Keep in mind that I meant what I said at the beginning of the post. Dispite the picture the above paragraphs paint, I really do get along with these guys and I genuinely like them all so I need to handle this carefully while I try to balance that dynamic. However, I feel like I have gone above and beyond and now that this has taken the fun out of it and quite frankly, now that I feel like I’m being taken advantage of a little, I need to find a solution here. The BL has agreed to look for a dedicated sound guy but again, now people are complaining about having to give up a portion of their pay for one. I actually received a 'friendly' text from one band member who thanked me for my efforts but then followed up with 'I hope we can find a solution to this problem without affecting our (his) ability to make money'. Again, why is this on me? My position is..we’re either going to rotate the PA duties gig to gig, you’re either gonna (preferably) pay a real sound guy or you’re gonna pay me to do it because this is basically a second job and one that I don't really enjoy or signed up for. I do really enjoy being in this band and I like the guys so I want to resolve this as amicably as possible but something needs to be done. Thoughts?? Am I out of line? Did I wait too long to take a stand? How would you handle? Short Summary: I’m in a band that I love. Money, music, hang is there. Reluctantly took on PA duties but it’s not working out (see main post). Some band members don’t want to hire a dedicated soundman because of $$$ concerns. I feel it's unfair that it's on me. I want to stay in band but get out from under live sound duties while retaining friendly band dynamic. Thanks!