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Never saw this coming (coworker story)

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by mike_v_s, Apr 10, 2010.


  1. A few years ago my wife was the manager of a small department at a hospital. One of her employees, although good at her job, was relatively standoff-ish. "Cold" was the term that most people used to describe her, although "rude" was another used frequently.

    Other departments periodically complained about her lack of manners. They reported she would outright ignore them (my wife caught her doing this once or twice, but she would just reinforce her request and she would comply). After a couple of years, both my wife and this girl left for greener pastures.

    Fast forward to last night, when my wife is out with a friend who happens to be this girl's cousin. Eventually, the girl came up in conversation. Erin asked how she was, etc, etc. When pushed for her professional opinion of her, my wife was straight forward: knows her stuff, but comes across as rude to many.

    My wife's friend then says "Yeah, I hear that a lot. She's nearly 100% deaf, but doesn't tell anyone unless they ask".

    That pretty much accounted for all of the complaints she or anyone else ever had about her. Weird. You'd have thought she was more concerned about people thinking she's a bitch.

    Mike
     
  2. TheDarkReaver

    TheDarkReaver Banned

    Mar 20, 2006
    Lincolnshire, UK
    How very odd. Did no-one notice when she talked, or did she lose her hearing later in life?
     
  3. SpamBot

    SpamBot

    Dec 25, 2008
    St. Paul, MN
    I would feel very awkward hearing that.
     
  4. I'm not sure about when she lost her hearing. I can say she had a bit of a lisp, but I've known a few people with a slight speech impediment that didn't lead you to think "hearing loss", ya know?

    Mike
     
  5. Gopherbassist

    Gopherbassist

    Jan 19, 2008
    If they put an effort in most deaf people can speak like non deaf people. It's just a time consuming thing and most don't.
     
  6. kesslari

    kesslari Groovin' with the Big Dogs Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Dec 21, 2007
    Santa Cruz Mtns, California
    Lark in the Morning Instructional Videos; Audix Microphones
    I had an old girlfriend who was very nearsighted and too vain to wear glasses.
    People thought she was stuck up and standoffish because she wouldn't greet them (though she'd talk to people fact to face).
    Thing was, she didn't see/recognize them.
     
  7. Relic

    Relic Cow are you?

    Sep 12, 2006
    Robbinsville, NJ
    I can fully sympathize in a weird way. I've always had a bit of "nerve deafness" I guess it's called. Where, in a normal situation I'm absolutely fine, but put me in an environment where there's any sort of background noise and I literally cannot comprehend anything that's said to me. I'm talking near 100% not being able to understand someone. This has led to me being described as stuck up, rude, etc, when people try to approach me after a set when the juke box is blaring.. I'm actually anything but stuck up..

    well, maybe a little but still, it kind of sucks
     
  8. LiquidMidnight

    LiquidMidnight

    Dec 25, 2000
    And like most things in life, there's a Seinfeld episode that this scenario relates to. :D That's quite ironic considering we just had a disccusion about Seinfeld on Talkbass.
     
  9. Really? I'm a fan and must have missed that episode.

    Mike
     
  10. Hi.

    An unfortunate run-in with an U-turning cager 10 years ago left me with only one functioning ear.

    If there's even slightest background noise, anything coming from the deaf side will be ignored, obviously.

    I don't have a habit of telling every single person I meet that I'm 50% deaf, and that has created some problems. The thing is, people don't neither care or remember.

    I understand her completely, but I couldn't pull that off in a static working environment, much less in a medical workplace. What surprizes me most, is that none of the doctors or nurses noticed? Really?

    Regards
    Sam
     
  11. My mother in law is the same. She has hearing aids, but they are tucked away under her hair. She doesn't really make it known that she has hearing difficulties either.

    My partner frequently has people saying "Your mum hates me! She never acknowledges me when I talk to her" etc etc...

    She is relatively fine if she knows you are talking to her, but if she doesn't 'see' you talking to her, then good luck with that!
     
  12. If they did, it was never brought to my wife's attention. The first she heard of it was from her friend and when she told me this morning (I knew the girl), I honestly replied "Holy ****, that makes total sense".

    Mike

    EDIT: After speaking with my wife again about this, she has informed me that nurses (being a group she interacted with daily while doing her job) were the ones that reported her for being rude on several occasions. So I guess they didn't notice. I'd have expected those who worked closely with her to be more in tune with something like that anyway.
     

  13. I have that same issue! Maybe closer to 90% for me rather than 100%... But it is still frustrating, especially when you tell people that you cannot hear them because of the background noise being too loud and yet they still try and talk to you...
     
  14. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    Interesting story.

    BTW, your wife is called "Erin"? What nationality is that name?
     
  15. thefruitfarmer

    thefruitfarmer

    Feb 25, 2006
    Kent UK
    I used to have a colleague who would talk quieter on purpose when I could n't hear him with an ear infection. I told him he needed to come closer and get my attention before he started to talk but he would constantly mumble from the other side of the desk. It was a ploy to be irritating - but he was definately that kind of guy.

    I think the problem is that some people will exploit your deafness or not know what to do with it and if this woman the OP mentions has had lots of experiences like that she may have just decided it is easier just to not tell anyone !

    Most people though, when I told them my hearing is not too good at the moment, were fine about it.
     
  16. undeadbass

    undeadbass

    Jun 27, 2008
    New York, NY
    Erin is an Irish name, that, in fact, means Ireland. One of my younger sisters is named Erin.
     
  17. BassyBill

    BassyBill The smooth moderator... Gold Supporting Member

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Midlands UK
    Ta! I like it. :)
     
  18. Relic

    Relic Cow are you?

    Sep 12, 2006
    Robbinsville, NJ
    Yeah it stinks doesn't it? I've even gone so far as to have hearing tests done and they always come out fine. It's not the sensitivity that's bad, I can hear just fine, it's the actually ability to ungarble the mass of sounds that's hitting your brain or something. It's really odd.
    In a bar or club setting, I literally have had people shouting into my ear from a few inches away and still could not understand them . To clarify - I can hear them just fine, I just can't understand them. It sucks, it totally and completely sucks! :meh:
     
  19. RWP

    RWP

    Jul 1, 2006
    Talk Bass OT. A forum about nothing. :D
     
  20. Yes, but she goes by Erin_v_s because underscores rock.
    Thanks.

    Mike
     

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