Just wanna get some more thoughts on this...it’s a long one. Apologies in advance for the length. I haven’t been in a band in about 10 years or so. But I’ve been in many and have gigged extensively when I was younger. Well I decided it’s time to get back on the horse so I recently joined a local band. I auditioned last week and they offered me the gig right on the spot. Some background: the band had just recently come together with another bass player, who died just after a few practices with them. He had some health issues apparently and died suddenly. So they began the search. As I said, I auditioned last week and was given the job. We are set to practice again tomorrow night (practice number 2.) They are all competent musicians. But what I noticed at the audition was they were sloppy. The drummer literally told everyone else “all of you need to look at me when it’s time for the bridge” for one song. 2-3 songs, none of them seemed to know when the songs ended. One song, the two guitar players couldn’t agree on what chord was being played (all cover songs.) I chalked it all up to they’re a new band and I’m brand new in the band. Will take some time to iron out the wrinkles. No worries. So I went out of town for the weekend (just returned today) and found a long email chain between all the band members. Apparently the BL booked a showcase gig for next Sunday. He didn’t ask anyone, he didn’t make sure we could all make it, he just did it and sent out an email with a time and place. My first thought was “really?!?!” We literally have played together one time. We have people who don’t know the songs. We have people who are arguing about how the original band played it. And this guy books a showcase??? Kind of a “what the f***” moment. What followed was a long chain of back and forth between all members...one guy was angry because his pub trivia team had some trivia thing planned for the same day. Then another guy suggested we do it without that guy (second guitar.) So then that guy loses his mind and starts all cap typing to everyone. As I read through all the emails, all I could think was “man these people are behaving like children.” After a long drama filled email chain, everyone kissed and made up. This has given me pause. If you’re thinking after reading this “well they’re probably young and will grow out of the nonsense” you might be surprised to learn that I’m the youngest member and I’m in my 40’s. They’re all over 50. At this point, I of course am not throwing in the towel (it’s one incident) but I’m definitely on alert now. Everyone in the band has a day job. I do very well in mine and don’t “need” a gig but I sure do miss gigging. But this little drama filled pissing session has reminded me of the crap you have to tolerate when in a band. So what say you? No big deal here or would you too be concerned? Am I seeing a tempest in a teapot here? Or is there legitimate cause for concern? You’re in my shoes-what would you do?