My band has a new drummer. Great guy, good ability . In rehearsal I realize that he's been staring at my fingers as I play. Now, I rely on the drummer for a steady beat to lock into, but I realized that he is looking at me as the lead. He's staring at my fingers because he's waiting to see when I change and he's going to change with me or alter his play based on what I do. He rarely takes his eyes off me. It's kind of off-putting. On the break last week I asked him why he kept looking at me, and he said he's looking at my fingers to help himself and said that bass is the true lead of the Rhythm Section. One time last week, I think because I stopped playing quarter notes, or changed something else,, he changed the beat and the whole song went off track. He will change tempo based on my play also. I always thought that the drummer is supposed to stick to the beat and the way we play the song no matter what and that the other musicians play around the drummer. And of course I always try to lock in with the drummer, but I thought that's a one way street, so to speak, if it had to be one or the other, it should be me locking in with him as much as possible not him locking in with me. I feel like he's relying on me too much. Am I wrong? Is bass really the true leader of the Rhythm Section?