I've been playing with this group for about a year and a half..rockabilly, classic rock, old R&B. They have been together for almost 10 years and the lead guitar player and I joined almost at the same time. We are better musicians and have better work attitudes than the people that we replaced so by last spring, began to get a lot of gigs. In July, the rhythm guitar player/lead singer was diagnosed with cancer so we cancelled all of our gigs for that month and August. He felt better by September so we've played several gigs but his energy is noticeably lower. We practiced last Saturday for three hours and he sat in a chair the whole time while singing and playing his guitar. Said that he was tired. We have gigs on December 14 and 15 at the same club that has asked us to play on New Year's Eve. The singer said that he would prefer to stay at home with his wife and two daughters that nite. The drummer wants to play on the 31st and is also the only person who is single. We are all in our 40's and 50's and have families. I called the drummer last nite and told him that maybe we shouldn't play on the 31st...he wants to spend it with his family, a four hour gig would be hard if he doesn't feel good and we're already doing two in December. The drummer thought that we should play and if the singer can't do it, then we need to get someone involved in practices right away as a replacement. I told him that I didn't like this idea..the singer didn't ask to get sick and he has been the most inluencial member of the band...getting the gigs, learning the songs, organizes most of the sets, etc. What do you guys think?