Not good with names

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by LiquidMidnight, Jul 17, 2013.

  1. LiquidMidnight


    Dec 25, 2000
    You know how you always meet someone who says something along the lines of "I'm great with faces, but I'm not very good with names"? Well, I've finally come to admit to myself that I am one of those people. Perhaps it's because I'm a visual learner, but I can meet someone new, have them tell me their name, and I'll forget it in 10 seconds. It's created a few embarrassing moments in my day-to-day life, although it fortunately hasn't really affected my work life.

    Anyone else one of those "Great with faces, bad with names" people?
  2. chris1125


    May 14, 2007
    Absolutely, I've been known to ask someone what there name is several times in initial conversation. That way I remember, they remember me, etc. It's better then the alternative of knowing someone for sometimes even weeks and having no clue what their name is, which has happened to me as well. I find if it's casual conversation, if I get there name and either wright it down or ideally add them on Facebook to see the name and the picture, it's much easier to remember.
  3. two fingers

    two fingers Opinionated blowhard. But not mad about it. Inactive

    Feb 7, 2005
    Eastern NC USA
    I'm sorry, What was your name again?
  4. MatticusMania

    MatticusMania LANA! HE REMEMBERS ME!

    Sep 10, 2008
    Pomona, SoCal
    I happen to meet most new people when Im drunk. Then I see them again and I know Ive met them, but cant remember their name for the life of me.
    I just tell them I remember meeting them, but their name has slipped my mind. THey dont usually care.
  5. 6jase5

    6jase5 Mammogram is down but I'm working manually

    Dec 17, 2007
    San Diego/LA
    Yes, and my being in sales it's not a great trait to have. Try using association right away even though it will seem a bit stupid at first. I like rhyming.

    Something like this....You meet a guy named Ray. Look for something that rhymes with Ray in the current scene like "Ray whose suit is gray" or "Ray I met on a cloudy day".

    You'll be surprised by how well it works. Recently I met a woman through work who goes by "Kits". I was at a loss.
  6. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Moderator Staff Member

    Apr 12, 2001
    Olympia, WA
    Not me. If you say your name to me, I spell it back to you. I never forget that way.

  7. MatticusMania

    MatticusMania LANA! HE REMEMBERS ME!

    Sep 10, 2008
    Pomona, SoCal
    "Ray who may or may not be gay."

    What you did there, I see it.
  8. LiquidMidnight


    Dec 25, 2000
    The association technique sounds very interesting. I think that I'm going to start trying that.
  9. Ziltoid

    Ziltoid I don't play bass

    Apr 10, 2009
    I have a pretty good memory for just about anything. However, it only works when I want it to.

    If I casually ask someone their name just for the sake of being polite I won't remember it. However, if I want to remember it I will without any trouble. The same also applies to reading. I forget some of the stuff I casually read without much interest but remember "serious" reading very well. Conversations, classes and conferences are a bit different tho, I tend to remind them verbatim for a long time regardless of my concentration.
  10. i'm horrible with names
  11. I like and use the association technique.

    Instead of rhyming words I use celebrity names or anyone in your life with the same name. That way you can picture that celebrity with the name.
  12. Jeff K

    Jeff K Supporting Member

    Jul 9, 2005
    Memphis, TN
    Ha! My luck, the next time I saw him I'd say, "Good to see you again, Jay!" :bag:
  13. paste


    Oct 3, 2011
    I find odder the name the easier to remember since there are a lot less Arslan's then are Mike's. I remembered said Arslan by associating the first two letters of his name with Argon, a Pokémon I used to like. And the last part of his name slan with slandering. So a Slandering Argon would make a Arslan. Never forgot his name to this day even though ive only seen him three times in my life. The more absurd the association, the easier I find it to remember.
  14. Tony Flow MMMM

    Tony Flow MMMM

    Dec 4, 2012
  15. yodedude2

    yodedude2 Supporting Member

    Nov 19, 2005
    san antonio, texas
    i overheard at a party that there is a distinct section of a normal human brain dedicated to remembering others' names. there is also a separate section for face memory. if your brain name-memory section does not work well (like mine), use association techniques to get other parts of the brain involved in the memory. previously mentioned 'tricks' like name rhyming, associating the name with a song lyric or color, image visualization, spelling, repetition, etc. all get multiple parts of the brain involved in the name game.
  16. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Moderator Staff Member

    Apr 12, 2001
    Olympia, WA
    Why? It's a great way to break the ice meeting someone new. I did it when I met the CEO of the hospital I used to work at. His name is Bruce. Mostly obvious how to spell that name, so I explained to him that is how I remember peoples names. He thought it was a great idea, and it sparked an interesting conversation for a few minutes. Up until the day I left, he remembered me and my name too.

  17. This bar I used to frequent was really handy, in that everyone had the same first name - Hey!
  18. Bloodhammer

    Bloodhammer Twinkle Twinkle Black Star

    Jul 7, 2009
    Shreveport, Louisiana
    I suck with names, but I'm real good with derogatory nicknames I make up for people. So far I haven't accidentally called someone said nickname to their face, but I know it's a risk.
  19. pocketgroove


    Jun 28, 2010
    I'm not only bad with names, but also have prosopagnosia - face blindness! Many a time people have walked up to me knowing who I am, while I'm not sure if I've ever seen them before in my life. Even with family and people I've known my whole life, the second they leave my field of vision, I have no memory of what they look like.
  20. blastoff99

    blastoff99 Moderators Local A440 Staff Member Supporting Member

    Dec 17, 2011
    Under the flight path
    This. I always ask someone how they spell their name. Always. This helps me remember it, and lets them know that I'm interested.

    Of course, if someone's name is Bill, I kind of have to make a joke out of it. "Do you spell that the usual way, or is there a silent R somewhere in the middle?"