Old dudes in band with young dudes.

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by bigboy_78, Jul 14, 2013.

  1. So I am about to join a classic rock band with some 16 year olds. Is this a bad idea? The guys seem pretty together, they moved their last bass player on because all he wanted to was smoke dope.
    Great young singer/guitarist, loves the old stuff and can’t find anyone his age to jam with.

    I’m 35.

    If they were 26 and I was 46 the 20yr difference wouldn’t bother me, but teenagers are, you know, teenagers.

    Is being an “old guy” in a group of kids a bit creepy?

    I’m struggling to find a gig at all so I take what I can, and these kids do gig.
  2. Go with it!
    Everybody wins!
    I fill in at a Rock and Roll themed resturant on bass, or guitar, or sound, with players ranging from early 60's to 15!.. (I am 51...so average!)
    Good players have respet beyond things like age!
    Have fun!!!!
  3. Floyd Eye

    Floyd Eye Inactive

    Feb 21, 2010
    St. Louis
    Makes no difference. My drummer and I are in the 45ish range and my guitarist is 31.

    If you like the band, join. Nothing wrong with it.
  4. Dr Improbable

    Dr Improbable

    Apr 15, 2013
    Their parents might look at you funny...
  5. mrbell321


    Mar 26, 2012
    N. Colorado
    I'm 34. I've jammed with a few teenagers in the last year. I am the youngest of my current "band" which has a guy in his mid-50's
    Entirely depends on the people and what you want out of it.
  6. Classic rock was created by teenagers....
    when you are my age they will be your age!
  7. Ukiah Bass

    Ukiah Bass Supporting Member

    May 10, 2006
    So will their girlfriends and "fans"! :rollno:

    Frankly, I'd feel more comfortable if the band were tilted toward older players sprinkled with one or two younger musicians. You'll truly feel the difference when they just want to "hang."
  8. LakeEffect

    LakeEffect Supporting Member

    Feb 21, 2013
    I think that'd be rad, if it works out, it works out, go for it. If it doesn't, keep making moves (or just tell them you like to smoke dope, sounds like that will make your departure a breeze).
  9. zephyr_words


    Aug 12, 2009
    I wouldn't join a band where any of the members were under 21.
  10. GKon

    GKon Supporting Member, Boom-Chicka-Boom

    Feb 17, 2013
    Albuquerque, NM
    Have fun with it and see how it goes.

    Just don't offer them any candy while wearing a trench coat ;)
  11. Cycho


    Nov 30, 2010
    What's the down side of joining? You might decide to quit? That could happen with any band. I would go for it.
  12. It was the singer's mum that asked me if I'd mind joining because they can't find a bassist. Everyone wants to play guitar, cuz they get the ladeez.
  13. I'm 49 & my most active band was w/a 49-yr-old drummer and two 20-something singer/gtrsts. It was great, so it can work- but I wouldn't expect a lot of maturity and/or professionalism from teenagers. I know I wouldn't really be able to relate to them(at 35 or 50)... maybe in musical terms though
  14. That’s my thinking as well. The “band” is really the singer/guitarist and whatever musicians he can find to back him up. If it was a young guy backed up by a band of “grown-ups” it’d be cool. But an old fella hanging with a bunch of teenagers, and the teenage fans that they’re playing to could be no good.

    I’ll give it a crack and see how it goes. Most of the available guys in my age bracket are playing the same tunes, but are more into the classic rock lifestyle than the music. For them Jamming = Getting Wasted with an instrument in your hand. At least these guys are still young and keen and not broken by reality.
  15. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Supporting Member

    Jan 13, 2008
    It's creepy if you let it be. One of my band's last bassist was originally the kids' pasture at church, and that's how he met the rest of the band. They needed a bassist and asked him and he said sure. He was probably around 30 or so when they were 17 or 18. He still plays with them to this day from time to time when he wants a gig. He's a nice guy, and they all are friends and will go grab beers or smoke cigars together nowadays. Guess you can't do that with these kids just yet though lol. Oh, and when I was 18 I joined a cover group with guys as old as 45 in it. It wasn't weird, and they all treated me like an equal so it was cool.
  16. ulrichsd


    Mar 6, 2013
    I think it is a horrible idea. Unless they are family or something. I wouldn't trust my 16 year old kids with a 35 yo stranger. And why would you want to be in a band with teens, you exclude about 90 percent of your potential venues.
  17. Biggbass

    Biggbass Supporting Member

    Dec 14, 2011
    Planet Earth
    They just need you for your wheels!
  18. Dr Improbable

    Dr Improbable

    Apr 15, 2013
    There's a huge legal minefield here just waiting for you to step in. remember, anywhere you are with these guys, you will be considered the responsible adult. You will be legally responsible for what these guys do...
  19. You should make this part of the act. wear a trenchcoat, hang a stained teddy bear off your headstock, and throw candy around...
  20. I just can't imagine it being worth the trouble. When you're not playing music, you will be dealing with an immature bunch of kids. (Unless they've proven their maturity in some way.)