So I searched and found a "big guy" in the band thread - which I also am, but I'm down 10 pounds so I'm trying. I am also the oldest guy in the band. 51 and pretty grey. Not especially good looking compared to these guys. Everyone else is at least 12 years younger than me, the female singer is maybe 20 years my junior. Very attractive female singer, good looking guitar player as are the drummer and keyboard player. We've had a few public outings. I wouldn't call them a gig, but we've played a couple sets for an art festival and a outdoor festival. I've seen pics and video and while I don't look completely out of place, I don't exactly fit in. They asked me to play, and I've played with them before, but that was in a horn band and different jazz groups. Age/looks didn't seem to be as big a deal in the horn band, and jazz...anything goes there. But this is a dance/party cover band. I can play the tunes, but that isn't what will make the band. It's the show, engagement, hooking the crowd. Like I said, we've tried bands before with different levels of success. Talent and ability to play the music is not an issue. We can play. But we've always missed the show part. I think our singer will help a lot. Thing is, I am not a show player. I stand pretty still. I like to be in the background. I'm having fun, but people tell me I look bored. I'm a little torn. If I say something, I think they'd say I'm crazy. Or maybe they'd offer suggestions to try and make myself more interesting when I play, but I think it would come off as fake. I don't want to hold them back. I don't want people to say hey, this band is great and fun, except for their dad on bass. Like I said, we have yet to do a real club type gig, but I'm a little worried that I might not be the best fit for the band. Any thoughts?