Older Women

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by LiquidMidnight, Nov 19, 2005.

  1. LiquidMidnight


    Dec 25, 2000
    I'm 23, and I've made friends with a 30 year old women (I met her through our drummer, with whom she went to school with). It's really cool talking with her, and there's definatley a mutual attraction. There's also been some talk of casual sex, but that's niether here nor there. I feel like Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate............except that I'm still an undergraduate (though I'm preparing for the GRE if that counts for anything *LOL*). My point is that I enjoy the company of this women because she's older. She knows who she is; she knows where she's going; and she's beyond the "games" that a lot of younger women/girls play.

    This has led me to totally rethink my whole view on who I should be dating. I've always pictured myself with a younger women, because let's face, that's how it pretty much goes in mainstream society. But now, I don't know if that's how I should be viewing this. Obviously, you can't generalize people that easily; you're going to run into younger people who are very mature and older people who haven't a clue. But I am somewhat generalizing here. I've always been mature for my age, and I'm thinking that possibly an older women is who will satisfy me, especially emotionally and intellectually. I'm not ready to get married or anything, but I think that the older woman angle is the way to go right now.

    I was wondering if any other talkbassers date/are married to older women. What are your thoughts about it? Females, what do you think?
  2. Munjibunga

    Munjibunga Retired Member

    May 6, 2000
    San Diego (when not at Groom Lake)
    Independent Contractor to Bass San Diego
    When you're 43, she'll be 50, and you'll be thinking about a 23-year-old. And if there's only one of them, it's "woman."
  3. If you're 43 and you'r wife is 43 you'll still be thinking about a 23 year old. Infact, if you're 16 or your wife is any age a 23 year old woman will still be on your mind.
  4. LiquidMidnight


    Dec 25, 2000
    I wasn't referring to being with this woman in particular (I do have a tendency to pluralize that word for some reason), but older women in general.
  5. Bassic83


    Jul 26, 2004
    Texas, USSA
    I've always been attracted to older women. My first serious girlfriend was a senior while I was a junior, not a big spread, but in the closed little world of high school, it was a pretty big thing...I was going to the senior prom and to lots of senior functions while my contemporaries were limited to the junior-level activities.

    After high school, I started hanging out with a much older crowd. I don't know why that is, but I was able to carry on actual conversations, and talk about things that were on my mind at the time, and found differing viewpoints among my compatriots. Naturally, I gravitated to older women, as they seemed to be on a higher level intellectually than the girls my age. The biggest gaps in age were when I was dating a 33-y.o. lady, I was 17, and when I was dating a 44-y.o. when I was 23. I got a lot from each relationship.

    When I finally married at 25, my then-wife was 23. It was a fiasco. We divorced, and I went single again for many years (10, actually). Most of the women I dated in that time were from 3-7 years older than me. I screwed up and got married again to a younger woman, that lasted a very short time as well. Got a beautiful daughter out of the deal, so it wasn't a total loss. My present girlfriend is substantially younger than me, by 8 years, and the issues that I faced in past younger women don't seem to have materialized at this point. But I told her straight out that I would not marry again, no way, no how. She's cool with it most of the time, but every once in a while she mentions getting married and having kids. Sorry, been there, done that.

    It is often said that men hit their sexual peak in their late teens to early twenties, while women peak in their thirties to early forties. I had to test out that theory, and I found that to be generally true, with a few notable exceptions! ;)

    Intellectually and emotionally, women are said to be somewhat complete in their twenties, while men seem to need a lot more time to invent themselves, and then reinvent, and then have that mid-life crisis thing, then reinvent some more. So I guess that means we're late bloomers!

    I've enjoyed my ride(s) thus far ;) , and don't plan to stop any time soon. I do find that older women are definitely more appreciative of even the smallest things, while the younger ones are primarily obsessed with one of two things- getting money, or shopping. Older women, on the other hand, don't seem to be quite as materialistic. They DO know who they are, and most are quite comfortable with it, though every woman I have ever met is concerned with their weight. If you can find a way to make them not worry about something as petty as what their dress size is, you'll find you have a pretty good companion on your hands, provided you like many of the same things.

    One of the reasons I think older women held a lot of attraction for me is their range of life experiences. Having been through the wringer a few times, they know how not to be as stupid, usually. Youth has it's benefits, but life has more merit...
  6. DigMe


    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    This is why I don't bother doing math anymore. I just send all my math problems to Munji. He's a human calculator and always willing to help.

    brad cook
  7. A human calculator? This I have to see.

  8. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member

    Apr 12, 2001
    Olympia, WA
    My wife is four years older than me. I was attracted to her for the same reasons you are attracted to your lady friend.

    Not all older woman as secure about themselves though. You'll find some loopy 30 year olds just like you find loopy 23 year olds.

  9. Mike Money

    Mike Money In Memoriam

    Mar 18, 2003
    Bakersfield California
    Avatar Speakers Endorsing Hooligan
    An older woman stole my innocence. :eyebrow:
  10. Bassic83


    Jul 26, 2004
    Texas, USSA
    As long as she gives it back, we'll be fine. ;) :D
  11. dcr

    dcr Supporting Member

    Mine too. I'd do it again in a minute!

  12. Declaration of willingness or expected duration?

  13. Brad Barker

    Brad Barker

    Apr 13, 2001
    berkeley, ca

    sucka just got served. :cool:
  14. Funky Doctor

    Funky Doctor

    Aug 28, 2003
    An older woman stole mine too... min dyou she was only about 4 weeks older than me.
  15. Wrong Robot

    Wrong Robot Guest

    Apr 8, 2002
    I was seeing a girl 5 years older than me for a little while. It was great. No drama, no games, great sex, mature talking...etc.

    After her I 'dated' a girl 2 years younger than me, which basically didn't even get off the ground I was so quickly put off by her drama.

    Now, I'm trying to figure things out with this girl who is a year and change younger than me, and so far she seems to be far more mature than girls I've met her age. But, they always seem that way until you get to know them ;)

    The point is, I want to date more older women, So maybe I ought to get library card.
  16. I always seem drawn to the older women, but then im only 23. There are no women younger than me.. Just girls.
  17. Hot girls.
  18. cheezewiz

    cheezewiz Supporting Member

    Mar 27, 2002
    Go for it!
  19. AuG


    May 22, 2005
    Fort Collins, CO
    I've had my share of dating girls in the 18-20 range. Most are pretty much stuck on themselves in one way or another and I find it virtually impossible to have any kind of real relationship with 'em. Unfortunately there's no real way I can meet older women, with me being just under the age limit for booze. :rolleyes: Maybe I should get a library card with Wrong Robot.

    I'd like to see a woman's point of view on this at some point.

  20. Ed Goode

    Ed Goode Jersey to Georgia

    Nov 4, 2004
    Acworth, GA
    My wife is six years older than me ...... :cool:

    but she looks exceptionally good, and I look exceptionally bad, so to the casual observer I appear to be older than her ...