Watched the movie "Brave" last night and I have been thinking about it today on Valentine's day. I liked it that the main character was able to find wholeness in herself. She discovered that life is sometimes about being the best person you can be and not finding your value in what other people think of you or in some other person or achievement. She also learned to accept her mother as she is and not wish her mom was someone else. The movie didn't end with her marrying Prince Frogbass and living happily ever after. She didn't need that to be happy. I believe that is one of the messages of feminism that applies to both men and women. We don't need a partner to be a whole person. We are complete by ourselves. When we realize that it is about who we are and not about our acheivements or our significant other we actually make better partners. That is if we choose to have a partner. Happy Valentine's day. May we find joy and contentment by accepting who we are right now. May we confinedent enough in who we are to risk loving others. Even those who are hard to love.