So Wednesday night I had a jam with a drummer and 2 guitarists. We (they) picked 6 songs to try. The day before the jam the lead guitar player sent an email stating that the drummers house is pretty far away and wasn't sure when he would make it out, didn't have a cell phone, and his car was old and may break down. Anyway, the jam is at the drummers house which is a hike from the city. I show up on time, wait about 20 minutes for the singer/guitarist/organizer to get there. He arrives and sets up. We sit around for another 20 minutes or so and then he decides to get in his car and drive around a bit to try and find the lead guitar player. Comes back about 20 minutes later empty handed so we decide to try a few of the songs anyway. We get through 1 song and then his phone rings, lead guitar player got lost and couldn't find the place so he went home. This was about 1.5 hours after the jam was supposed to start. We tried 1 more song but didn't even make it half way through before the singer decides to call it a night and say thanks but no thanks. I get an email from the guitar/singer the next day asking if I'd still be interested in playing with him if he found another drummer closer to town. I replied saying I would certainly come out for another jam (I'm always looking to play with people). Then I asked him about the previous jam session and if the other guitar player was reliable or would failing to come to practices be a common theme. He sent me a long, scathing reply, I'll spare you the details but basically he said I had no right to ask such a thing of someone I don't know. Was I out of line asking that question? I don't want to join up with a band that has members that only show up when they feel like it, I was just trying to see if this was one of those situations. Anyway, I apologized for offending him and wished him luck in the future.