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Open Relationship's how do you feel about it.

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by JeffTheBig, Aug 12, 2007.


  1. first off no dis-respect to anyone who is in one or was in an Open Relationship at one time.

    how do you feel about it?
    i disagree with it.i look at it as cheating.
     
  2. Masher88

    Masher88 Believe in absurdities and you commit atrocities

    May 7, 2005
    Cleveland, OH
    I had one a while ago. At first it was neat cuz we only hung out when I /she wanted to...and we didn't have to go to "family functions" and stuff with that person. But then it got weird cuz we'd be out at a bar or whatever and her other "dates" would be calling and TXTing while we were out. And she didn't have the couth the turn off her phone or not answer.
    so, it just kinda fizzled out.
     
  3. RWP

    RWP

    Jul 1, 2006
    I think everybody should try it once.
     
  4. Geoff St. Germaine

    Geoff St. Germaine Commercial User

    I don't see how it's cheating if both people have agreed to it. I would think that cheating would have to involve a deception, which this by definition would not. I don't much care what consenting adults do in the bedroom as long as it isn't hurting people.
     
  5. Ryan L.

    Ryan L. Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Aug 7, 2000
    West Fargo, ND
    It's nothing I care to be involved in, but I have nothing against people who do it.
     
  6. msquared

    msquared

    Sep 19, 2004
    Kansas City
    I have a bigger problem with apostrophe abuse than I do with open relationships.
     
  7. I think that they can be fun and interesting in the beginning, but once things start to get somewhat serious, I think that the arangement will end up driving one person nuts.

    ~K
     
  8. Visirale

    Visirale

    Mar 23, 2003
    Orlando
    I'd never be in one. I like to be emotionally attached and be there for them for everything... I couldn't handle my significant other kissing me one night then going out and making out with someone else the next... then coming back to me like it was nothing.

    Nothing against those who do it though... Just something I can't do.
     
  9. (DING!)

    OOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! Mr. Squared has not only rung in with the correct answer, but recieved double the possible points by wrapping his response up in stylish sarcasm!! Good show, sir, good show!

    +20, Mr. Squared!

    In all this excitement, I've forgotten whose turn it is, so let's just let the next contestant ring in at will, shall we?

    Mike
     
  10. thats how I see it--if two people are getting what they want out of the relationship, then what's the problem?
     
  11. jady

    jady

    Jul 21, 2006
    Modesto, CA
    The problem is, most people are getting what they THINK they want. It is rare that both parties want just sex and nothing more evolves from that. If that is the case though (wanting just sex), I have no problem with it. It is just rarely the case.
     
  12. it depends on who the People are and how they act
     
  13. Ding!

    Holy Cow, folks! We are on a streak!

    Mr. Jam, your answer is correct, but we have no idea how to score it. You see, your answer is so general it's actually the correct answer for the next 6 "relationship" threads.

    We'll award you 2 points, but I'm not sure on what grounds. Feel free to elaborate, but don't expect the judges to exhibit much patience.

    Next!

    Mike
     
  14. Jonny B

    Jonny B

    Nov 5, 2006
    WI
    When you say open, do you mean not lying about the price of my latest GAS purchase? Because if that's the case then no, I am not ok with an open relationship.
     

  15. well you have the person in the said relationship who is going to be an a$$and sleep with the entire Block but only say that he/she is only sleeping with one person besides the significant other.

    then yuo have the folks who atually say that something might pop up but i still want to be faithful
     
  16. RWP

    RWP

    Jul 1, 2006
    No, that would be an honest relationship, quite different. :)
     
  17. (muted trumpet)

    Ohhhh! I'm sorry. We'll have to dock you one point. Neither of your examples, while both heartwarming, stated how you feel about open relationships.

    Acceptable answers are plentiful. A few examples:

    a) I'm totally down with multiple partners. I like variety.
    b) I don't want to play roulette with a baby, a DNA test and 5 dudes from the bar.
    c) You never know what you want till you've had what you don't....especially at the same time.
    d) I think it'll strengthen my immune system.
    e) I disagree with the concept because she's a lying whore.

    Sorry, but your turn is up. Let's allow the next contestant a clear playing field, shall we?

    Mike
     
  18. hbarcat

    hbarcat Supporting Member

    Aug 24, 2006
    Rochelle, Illinois
    If it's just you and your partner and you both decide to go off and do other people on the side (or have threesomes, orgies, same sex partners, fetish experiments, S&M, prostitution, star in porno movies etc....) then I say go for it! :hyper:

    But if you and your mate have children to take care of and be responsible for, then, for their sake, you'd best be in a committed and monogamous relationship to each other.
    :meh:
     
  19. ryco

    ryco

    Apr 24, 2005
    97465
    Maybe the two ppl in the primary relationship are OK with it, but the problems may start with the "casual others". You never know how they're going to act/react.

    Me myself tried it in a relationship and I couldn't handle the thought of someone else in the love spot. And I consider myself pretty open minded.

    Plus with all the diseases nowadays caution has replaced the carefree attitides.

    But I don't mind if other couples choose to do it.
     
  20. Jazzin'

    Jazzin' ...Bluesin' and Funkin'

    One of my friends has two girlfriends right now at the same time. They both (the girls) know the situation and are cool about it, so I guess it's not considered cheating. Although he's never with both of them at exactly the same time.

    I'd say as long as everyone knows what's going on and doesn't mind, there's nothing really wrong with it.
     

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