This could end up quite long winded so bear with me, I'm curious what everyone else thinks about this situation. Basically our guitarist (and my best mate) has been gradually getting more and more frustrated with our singer but he can't really offer a proper explanation as to why. We have all jammed together for years before the band started, most of the songs were written in a drugged up haze in the singers flat. The guitarist slowly calmed down on the drugs and started to be distanced from the group. I also slowed down on the drugs and distanced myself, I never took it personally that the guys didn't ring me or anything, thats just how it is, stop doing drugs and your druggy friends stop calling you. Anyway, by this point we had formed a band and were gigging quite regularly, the singer started going out with a girl who the bands old drummer used to go out with and they are now attached at the hip. I'll agree this is pretty damn frustrating as shes ALWAYS there, every gig, every practise and party, she is a proper drama queen and is constantly crying or seeking attention from our singer, she has ADHD and is really loud/annoying. Now every time our guitarist gets drunk he sends the singer abusive texts about his girlfriend, he says shes killing the band etc etc. This guy is turning into a bigger drama queen than the singers girlfriend. Yes it's frustrating that this girl is always around but its certainly not "killing the band", we just played two storming gigs last weekend and sounded better than ever. So the guitarist is drunk again tonight and texts me saying "dude sorry if I'm not at the next gig but I've put up with this for too long now". So I ring him and he's really angry saying how he's had enough and sick of this, he says the singer just doesn't "get it" and he's put up with the crap too long. He is making no sense, last weekend we played the best two gigs of our lives and sat backstage chatting about how well we are all clicking musically and now he's sick? I have asked him to explain but he keeps talking in metaphors and not really explaining anything, I think it all stems from him feeling left out back when he stopped partying with the singer and now that the singer is always with this other lass its almost like jealousy or something. So now I've got the singer (bandleader) txting me really upset, doesn't understand why the guitarist is giving him such a hard time. The guitarist is also txting me drunken crap about the singer is killing the band. The only person "killing the band" right now is him and his prima donna crap. I realise this thread reads like something off jeremy kyle, guess I just need somewhere to vent my frustrations. All this drama for nothing, I love my best mate to bits but the band comes first, I think he seems to think Im on his side here but Im really not. If he goes he will be replaced quickly, the band comes first for me. What's your opinions? Please no lectures about drugs, I'm only being honest. This isn't a pop group at the end of the day.