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Overdemanding job...need advice!

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by Diego, Mar 25, 2006.

  1. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    So here is what's going on with my life...I have an overdemanding job and a though (but fair) boss. The thing is I am putting A LOT of work hours per week and have been neglecting my bass for months (even the weekends are getting quite though work-wise). Recently I got a custom made instrument and that has forced me a bit to go back in the trenches. Nevertheless I am often way too tired and/or without time to practice (most often I just want to go home, have a beer and go to bed). I'm sure some fellow TBer(s) is/have been through the same situation as I am. The advice I need is on how to organize my schedule in order to fit the bass in it. How did you dela or delat with this issue? I really miss playing...believe me, bass is a big part of my life, and as things are, I miss it a lot!!!!. Your kind words are always welcome!!!
  2. well, i'd say until you make a lot of money with your bass, make sure you get your job taken care of...it sounds like your bass playingdoesn't exactly pay the bills, so make sure you can afford a living! otherwise try to set aside some time to play, regardless of if you are tired or not...i know tom morello of RATM (yeah, guitar i know) would practice 2 hours a day regardless of if he had to work late or study until two...just remember, where there is a will, there is a way...
    or, what about playing before you go to work? it sounds like you come home and go to bed, so what about the time before work?
  3. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    There is a great idea!!!!...opening my day with a couple of hours of bass!. It is true, bass does not pay the bills, but believe me, it DOES provide me with that good soul nourishment. I hope works gets a bit easier in the summer. It is often too demanding in the 1st quarter of the yeaer (where I have to put up with about 60+ hourse per week).

  4. PinkFloydDan


    Jul 4, 2005
    I have a similar problem. I keep my hours in the 40-50 range but my problem is that my job is mentally draining. I come home and I cannot even focus. It's hard to practice that way. I have been a journalist for almost 10 years now and I am starting to look for a new job. I dream of being a better bass player, but I'm not taking great steps to do anything about it. A very stressful job doesn't help. But, it's hard to walk away when you just bought a house, a new car, etc. It does pay the bills.

    I just am too stressed most of the time. I did play today.
  5. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    I completely understand...I perform myself as a research scientist...and yes, after 10 hours of work I can hardly focus...My dream is to become a better bass player but above that...to become a builder. Well, things will come eventually if I work hard, but its tricky, because the hard work is slowly draining my passion, and I don't want this to happen.

  6. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Apr 12, 2001
    Olympia, WA
    Play some Blink 182. That takes no focus at all.

  7. Keeaumoku


    Dec 29, 2004
    I'll just give you my personal experience... not to be taken as advice, unless you choose to do so otherwise. I played bass for a living during a good part of the '70s and early '80s. In 1983 I gave it up... completely... sold my axe and rig... totally put my bass playing days behind me... 'cuz I had identical twin daughters to raise, and I decided that I just wasn't going to be the kind of daddy to them that I wanted to be by pursuing a career playing bass guitar. Well, they're grown ups now, and both are in graduate school... I also managed to develop a very successful distribution company along the way... with the help of my partner, too... can't take all the credit, but there were many weeks, and months where 12-hour days, six days a week were commonplace. We employ fourteen wonderful people, and all of our hard work has paid off... I now have some time on my hands! Also, while I will not consider myself as a wealthy man, I can confidently say that money shouldn't be too much of a problem from here on out for me and my family...

    ...so, call it a middle-age crisis... whatever. I'm now 53, and about 16 months ago I decided I wanted to play bass again. I bought some real quality stuff, worked two or more hours nearly every evening on getting my chops back to speed, and I now find myself playing with two different bands. One of which is more of a 'practice band', the other is a real working band. With the working band, we play nearly every weekend... and get paid for it! I like to say that I haven't had to go to an ATM machine for extra cash ever since I hooked-up with these guys! :D

    My point... as much as I loved playing bass in a working band... especially when I was a young man in my 20s and early 30s, I made a life-changing decision, stuck with it, and managed to reap some very fortunate and satisfying rewards as a result. I now have the time and means to pursue bass playing again, and I shall always be humbled and grateful for my good fortune... but I'll say it again... I busted my butt to get here!

    In your case, it sounds like you have a rather important, yet definitely demanding job. Forgive me, but I will presume it pays you well, too. While I have no idea how old you are, I will also assume you are still a young man, and this is why you're expected to bust your rear-end as well. That's generally the accepted norm... However, as others have already suggested: there's always time to pick up the axe. A day is 24 hours after all... ;)

    Good luck to you, and I'm sure you can work it out...
  8. barthanatos

    barthanatos Insert witty comment here

    Feb 8, 2006
    South Carolina
    Lunch break?

    Can you safely keep a bass at the office and spend 30 minutes or so in the middle of your day? Totally relax and clear the mind, play some bass!
  10. Same situation here - full-time job, freelance work outside of normal hours, family needs, homeowner, on and on and on...

    What has worked for me was reading this forum. I get endless amounts of inspiration by reading the great advice, comments, suggestions, tutorials and more right here. Suddenly, like the parting of the Red Sea, time that I did not see as 'available' suddenly appears. Miracle? Not sure, but what I do know is that my 'will' has upped the ante and the 'way' becomes self-evident.

    Since I have joined, I have started designing my first custom bass, learned a song that I have wanted to learn for years, re-covered my homade cabinet, and more! And I just started participating in this forum a few months ago, if that. It is amazing what having some genuine inspiration means to finding the time to apply to my music.

  11. If music is important to making your life high quality, to in fact defining who you are and providing meaning to your existence, then you find a way. If you want to be half-assed about music, then you should play guitar!
  12. I think the only thing you can do is wait until opportunity comes a knocking.

    I was in a similar situation. My job was close to sixty hours a week, Monday through Saturday. Plus I was in a band that rehearsed once a week plus played at least twice a week. In the summer we played three and sometimes four times a week.

    I would play Friday night, go to work on Saturday, come home and take a nap. Get up and play Saturday night and then sleep through the better half of Sunday. Needless to say I was missing a lot of personal stuff, but playing was what I loved most plus it put some good cash in my pocket. I don't think I could even keep up with that kind of schedule today.

    After quite a few years of doing that it all changed. I got a better job, same occupation with better pay and only forty to forty five hours a week. Funny thing is at the same time the band split up and I decided to take a break. Now I have plenty of time on my hands and I'm enjoying myself, but still, I miss playing out. Someday the planets will realign and I will have my cake and eat it too. Only time and ambition will tell.

    Sorry for rambling, my point is you have to take care of your priorities first, but if your job is truly killing what makes you happy than it really isn't worth it, life is too short. If an opportunity doesn't come along, seek one out. It's all about the quality of life.
  13. one thing i do after a stressful day is to just sit at the tv and noodle around on the bass, without really thinking about it...It is still nice to get the bass in your hands, and you don't have to think about it...kind like what MJ5150 said, only without the Blink 182...maybe getting the bass in your hands and noodling around will give you a little more energy, because maybe you'll stumble upon a cool bassline or melody, then you'll get refocused on bass as you try to figure out how to use the line you just played...just an idea :)
  14. My story is very much the same as Chunk-O.

    I used to be a manager in hospitality with a large international chain, and believe me, they get their pound of flesh out of you!!!

    At the time, I was doing 12 - 15+ hours a day, 5, 6 or 7 days a week. Whatever the job required. I also had the band going on, and we used to rehearse once a week and play about twice a month. Needless to say, this left no time for socialising, or any other activities.

    But the point is, the hard work paid for my equipment, my home and my "lifestyle". I have changed jobs recently, and am now in a job that I love but is still very demanding.

    For me, I used to treat my bass playing as part of my daily work routine. So I would come home at whatever time, however tired etc, and before I could have that relaxing beer, I had to put in at least 30 minutes of practise. Seemed to work for me - I treated it like an appointment in my diary every day.

    Best luck!
  15. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA

    I can't thank you enough for such encouragind and kind words. It definitely brings some peace of mind and calms my soul to learn that there are fellow bassists living through similar predicaments. I don't make much money right now, but I make enough to earn a decent living and indulge onec in a while. Anyways, I think is just matter of organizing myself and getting my chops back in line. Thanks again!

  16. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    I'd love to do this but I can't. I wor in a medical reserach lab and can't bring a bass in here...:( . As for lunch brek I try to have lunch with my wife every day (she's also a scientist) and this is one of the few moments we have for ourselves duirng the day.

  17. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    +1!!! This forum is WITHOUT DOUBT and INMENSE source of inspiration!

  18. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    hahaha! (no guitar for me...thanks!):cool:

  19. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    I hear you! Great piece of advice!. I also ike my job, it is intellectually rewarding! I just wish I can spend for time in my life passions (not work related)

  20. Diego


    Dec 9, 2005
    San Francisco, CA
    Great idea!!! Actually I do this quite often, while watching TV with my wife and before and after dinner!


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