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Pfft! Drummers!

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by sound of bass, Mar 3, 2014.

  1. As you may know I post occasionally about our stereotypical drummer and his addiction to beer and bar sluts, his getting wasted at rehearsal and some gigs etc. A search has been on for a new, reliable and sober drummer for several weeks now. Hes been with us just about 2 years and although we all drink beer at rehearsal to kinda loosen up, he's the only one that gets wasted!! He also misses the most rehearsals. Anyway....as Im driving in to work tonight, I got a text from him saying he's sorry but he has to make a choice between music and his family, so he has to quit playing with us (and his other band thing) and get his **** together! Hes 30 years old, still lives with parents and has 2 young boys, nothing but turmoil between him and his baby mama, you'd swear hes a 17 year old kid! What bothers me is: He only sent a text, not an actual phone call, and didnt call or text any other band members! Tho Im relieved, Im still pissed off! I feel like we babysat him for 2 years and put up with his B.S. for nothing. The only good thing I have to say about him is, hes a really, really, kickass drummer! Until he gets drunk that is.
    He is thee stereotypical drummer we all make jokes about, no doubt about it, Im sure you all know one. Thanx for the rant players.
  2. You're better off without him. Just quitting via text shows what a loser and a tool he is. You already knew he was, and now he went and confirmed it.

    You'll find another drummer, and know to be pickier about what habits your band will or will not tolerate.
  3. pasmithy


    Jul 7, 2011
    SE PA
    You complained about him when you had to play with him. He gives you an easy way out and you are still complaining. He was having problems. How much could you really expect out of him?

    Can't wait till he gets his "****" together and you are trying to get him back...LOL
  4. Yes we are better off without him for sure, I realize that but its also a pain in the ass starting from square one again. He was our 3rd drummer in 2 years! We've been having a problem finding dedicated players. The last drummer blew off 2 rehearsals in a row cuz he had to mow his lawn! We cut him.
    Were not against having a few brews during rehearsals or gigs...I certainly do it, but getting wasted, is out of the question.
  5. Not complaining that he quit, but he should have been a man and went about it the decent / professional way. And NOOO, he will not be back in my band! I was just ranting. Thanks for your indulgence.
  6. AltGrendel

    AltGrendel Squire Jag SS fan. Supporting Member

    May 21, 2009
    Mid-Atlantic USA.
    If he's that irresponsible, I'm surprised that you expected anything more than a text. That was perfectly in keeping with behavior you've described in the past. Just give him a :rollno: and move on, he has enough problems.
  7. pasmithy


    Jul 7, 2011
    SE PA
    Did he know you were looking for a replacement for weeks? If he did, what did you expect? If he didn't what could you expect?

    If he is sincerely trying to get his "****" together, I'll trade you one talentless drummer for your "kickass" drummer. (once **** is together, of course.) ;)
  8. xUptheIronsx

    xUptheIronsx Conform or Be Cast Out....

    Feb 6, 2010
    C-ville, Col, Ohio
    sounds to me like the name of the thread should have been


    I am willing to bet that the alcohol, not the drumming, is the bigger problem....

    just saying
  9. marko138


    May 24, 2013
    Perry County PA
    I'd prefer a text over a phone call for just about anything. Someone quitting included.
  10. This. I'm about to pull the plug with the formation of a band with a guitarist-friend of mine and I'm just fine with doing that via whatsapp.
  11. as much crap as you're talking i wouldnt actually want to talk to you either
  12. To whom is that aimed? The OP? (Just asking)
  13. the op
  14. Textquit is fine in my book. It beats just having him not show up for a gig as his way of resigning.
  15. lol ~

    Hmm. I was just thinking, for a small fee we (TBers) could call, text or email (your choice) bands or band-mates to tell them you quit, they’re fired, or whatever you want. :D
  16. Heck I'd do it for free to help a brother out.
  17. obimark


    Sep 1, 2011
    It used to be we as bassist were completely in demand and could pick/choose whatever bands we felt like.
    I believe the tide has turned, and now it is the drummers who are in demand, particularly if they are ANY and I do mean ANY good.
    There seem to be more bassist available than GOOD bands in my area (ATLanta) Note the emphasis on the word GOOD.
  18. Ukiah Bass

    Ukiah Bass

    May 10, 2006
    Surprised he didn't butt-dial the resignation.
  19. squirefan


    Nov 22, 2009
    Lansing, Ks.
    I guess I never experienced that stereotype with drummers. All of the ones I've been in a band with have their act together pretty well.
    Some of the gui****s OTOH...
  20. SirMjac28

    SirMjac28 Patiently Waiting For The Next British Invasion

    Aug 25, 2010
    The Great Midwest
    +1 lol