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Play the gig or not?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Biggbass, Feb 25, 2014.

Play the Gig or Move On?

Poll closed Mar 12, 2014.
  1. Play the gig and keep peace in the valley

    4 vote(s)
  2. Call it quits and move on

    41 vote(s)
  3. Send him carrots and a get well card

    20 vote(s)
  1. Biggbass


    Dec 14, 2011
    Planet Earth
    Short story is:
    Band broke up 2 yrs ago. Everyone went in other musical directions.
    Now, one ex member is trying to reunite the band and starts booking gigs in the band's name.
    First, he books the gig, then he emails the ex band members expecting everyone to say yes. Unfortunately not everyone wants to participate, which has him showing an undesirable side of his personality and taking the low road in all communication. What were thought to be friendships are on now on the line as far as he is concerned, (which would indicate that the friendships weren't as strong as were thought to be).

    Do you throw in the towel, give in, and play the gigs?
    Do you call it quits with the guy, cash out on the "friendship" and move on?
  2. MonetBass

    MonetBass ♪ Just listen ♫ Supporting Member

    Sep 15, 2006
    Tulsa, OK
    He's the one who'll have to eat his hat here. This whole situation seems bizarre to me, and I'd feel very uncomfortable playing the gig.
  3. WashburnAB95


    Nov 18, 2013
    I think this is a very douchy thing for him to do. If I was handled this way I would really want everybody to stand him up so he is left holding the bag of poo. Now if some band members want to play and others don't.... that might make some of you look bad.

    On the other hand.... I don't play out enough so I would probably sell my soul and do the gigs.
  4. Goneburger.
  5. The carrots might work too.
  6. I'd call the guy up and tell him I sold all my equipment BUT if he'll buy me a new SVT rig and a P bass with flats on it , I'll be there in a heartbeat.:bassist:
  7. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    How much does it pay?
  8. Zooberwerx

    Zooberwerx Gold Supporting Member

    Dec 21, 2002
    Virginia Beach, VA
    Well, I'd do it if the project had "label interest".

    I always love reading that along with "pro gear, must be able to tour, gigs already on the books".

  9. tangentmusic

    tangentmusic A figment of our exaggeration

    Aug 17, 2007
    This. If no pay he can find someone else
  10. Biggbass


    Dec 14, 2011
    Planet Earth
    It's a benefit of course! The band pay is chicken fried steak and beer ... lol.
  11. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    Oh. :atoz:
  12. ngh


    Feb 6, 2013
    brooklyn, ny

    "I think the carrot infinitely more fascinating then the geranium"
  13. WardEarth

    WardEarth Supporting Member

    Feb 18, 2010
    Anchormanville, CA
    Communication is the keystone to keeping a band tight. Emails and texts don't work. And anyone trying to play these kinds of games with me gets a verbal beatdown ASAP.
  14. Given that it's a benefit, I voted to quit and move on. The guy seems like a bit of a douche for pulling a stunt like this.

    On the other hand, if it was a cause I really cared about, and didn't have anything else booked, I might play along. The whole time I'd remind him how I was doing him a huge favor and telling him not to book any more gigs in the name of the old band.
  15. I do not understand the option that I chose (I know, a bit of a paradox). "Call it quits and move on" is the obvious answer, but you did that two years ago.
  16. NWB


    Apr 30, 2008
    Kirkland, WA
    This might be a good time to tell his wife to sign those commitment papers.
  17. DiabolusInMusic

    DiabolusInMusic Functionless Art is Merely Tolerated Vandalism Supporting Member

    Play the gig and tell him never to call you again.
  18. That bolded part should be carved into stone and hung above the mantle.

    Pretty discourteous, to say the least. This guy is a dick, and that would signal the end of an already tentative "friendship" in my book.

    Do the gig if you get free food and drinks, or some kinda warm fuzzy out of it. But if you're not in the mood, don't hesitate to tell this guy to stick it and, while you're at it, express your displeasure that he seems to think you are his sock puppet.

    Well, that's how I'd handle it anyway.
  19. topo morto

    topo morto

    Mar 22, 2010
    Play the gig. You're not doing anything better that evening. Let someone else be the one to shove the umbrella through the spokes.
  20. Exactly what I was thinking. The quitting has already been done. Apparently one guy didn't get the message.