About three years ago, I took time off from music (which was about two years after a similar, but longer hiatus). I didn't touch my bass at all, I didn't even listen to music much. Then about a year and a half ago I joined a band to play out once every couple of months...just for the fun of it. No pressure, no commitments in any way. Then the leader of the group decided to just put things on hold and basically take a long (permanent?) hiatus. That was fine with me as my wife and I had a baby (7 months old now) and I really didn't want to play much any more anyway. Shortly before Christmas a guy I knew called me as he needed a bass player. I told him I wasn't really interested at the moment, but things could change. Now, after Christmas, my wife and I were talking about our financial situation and neither of us want her to work outside the home (we have three other kids) as she works as a graphic designer from home. I thought I could just get a part time job somewhere, but there really isn't much money in part time jobs relative to the time one has to put in. Then I remembered that guy calling me. There really is no better (or better paying) part time job than playing in a band. My wife and I discussed it and we are all for me playing out again. But...On the one hand I've really been enjoying being at home at nights and the weekends with my family and don't really want to be playing out every weekend. This band I tried out for plays out about four to eight times a month. The money would be great as I'd be making anywhere from $100 to $300 a night and we could use the cash. A part of me wants to play out again. I love playing and this band is a great group of people to work with, and the money is fabulous for a part time cover band. I do need a part time job...so what kind of part time job is this good? The other part of me doesn't want to do it. After 25 years of playing out, I kind of like being home and not dealing with the hassle of playing out (rehearsals, hauling gear, the bar scene, late nights, missing time with my family, etc.). Another thing is the set list is very boring, old, worn-out covers that really don't thrill me much at all...and they play a lot of wedding gigs as well. Don't get me wrong, the crowds don't feel that way about the music and they always pack 'em in and it always makes for a very fun time. If I do it...it will be a very major commitment on my part (and in fairness to the band, I'd want to be that way about it). If I do it, I"d be doing it more as a musical mercenary. I'm kind of torn about this. I'll be 45 years old in a couple of weeks and I keep having giant swings of emotions about it...from being jazzed up about playing again, to depressed about dealing with all the crap associated with playing out. Any advice from any of you who may be going (or have gone) through something like this? I guess I just need some feedback from both perspectives.