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PM Etiquette Question

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by MJ5150, Mar 11, 2006.


  1. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister

    Apr 12, 2001
    Lacey, WA
    You get a PM from a TB mamber who has a screen name that does not reflect their real name. In the PM, they use their real name. Is it OK then to use their real name when you are replying to them in a thread?

    I know I have done this a couple times in the past, which makes me wonder if I have possibly offended the person. I was just about to do it this afternoon, but decided to throw it out for discussion. I understand the ultimate way to resolve the issue is to just PM the person. I just thought it may be interesting to have an open discussion about it.

    -Mike
     
  2. Correlli

    Correlli

    Apr 2, 2004
    New Zealand
    If I tell you my name, you can use it in a forum.

    No big deal.
     
  3. ollybarclay

    ollybarclay

    Dec 14, 2005
    surely using their real name just serves to confuse other user's who don't know that bass_player198429395828's real name is reginald for example...

    you'd think my name is olly...it ain't...:D
     
  4. I would say yes, it's ok. I would avoid it unless quoting the person though as it can be confusing, unless their screen name is an obvious variation on their actual name.
     
  5. d8g3jdh

    d8g3jdh Guest

    Aug 9, 2005
    Well, I think my opinion on this is somewhat obvious. :D
     
  6. teej

    teej

    Aug 19, 2004
    Sheffield, AL 35660
    I've thought about this, too, and on several occasions have called someone by their name after seeing someone else call that person by his/her name.

    I don't mind someone calling me Trevor, or one of my nicknames -- T.J., my first and MIDDLE initial (not first and last, even though my last initial is also J) or Teej, which is what you'd get if you tried to pronounce "tj"). In fact, I'd encourage it.
     
  7. Mike N

    Mike N Missing the old TB

    Jan 28, 2001
    New York
    I don't think that Dig Me has a problem with people openly calling him the Qintar.

    :bag:
     
  8. dharma

    dharma Srubby wubbly

    Oct 14, 2005
    Monroe, Louisiana
    I say no, but because I err on the side of not stepping on someone's toes.

    Although, if Jokerjkny's real name is Jae, I think he should go by it more often.
     
  9. BurningSkies

    BurningSkies CRAZY BALDHEAD

    Feb 20, 2005
    Seweracuse, NY
    I'm pretty ok with it.

    I usually reserve signing my name for PMs, but I certainly don't mind people calling me by name on the forum once I'm on a first name basis with them.
     
  10. DigMe

    DigMe

    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    Why anyone would call me the Qintar is beyond me...openly or closedly.

    tq
     
  11. What's a TB mamber?
     
  12. steve21

    steve21 Banned

    Clearly a very sarcastic creature. ;)

    And you can all call me Steve.

    That's my opinion.
     
  13. Lowtonejoe

    Lowtonejoe Supporting Member

    Jul 3, 2004
    Richland, WA
    Yer a funny guy Lester!

    :D

    Joe.
     
  14. canopener

    canopener

    Sep 15, 2003
    Isle of Lucy
    If you have to ask, you don't want to know.
     
  15. DigMe

    DigMe

    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    Hey guys, quit being sarcastic and just answer Mike Asswipe's question.

    bc
     
  16. Lowtonejoe

    Lowtonejoe Supporting Member

    Jul 3, 2004
    Richland, WA
    Gosh, sorry Mr. DigMe/bc sir!

    (Notice I have both bases covered for you!)

    :rolleyes:

    But I digest...

    I always use their given name if I know it. If someone gets offended by that I probably don't need to PM them anyway.

    :D

    Joe.
     
  17. DigMe

    DigMe

    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    I have far more than two bases.

    bc
     
  18. Lowtonejoe

    Lowtonejoe Supporting Member

    Jul 3, 2004
    Richland, WA
    Tsk tsk,

    a little humility would serve you well.

    (coming from a guy who would LOVE to have FAR more than 2 basses! O.k. I have four, but still...)

    :D

    Joe.
     
  19. DigMe

    DigMe

    Aug 10, 2002
    Waco, TX
    You kiddin' me? It's gotta be like 80% humility here right now. I'm sweatin' like...something that sweats a lot.

    bc
     
  20. teej

    teej

    Aug 19, 2004
    Sheffield, AL 35660
    tq, then bc? i'm on to you, Mr. Whoeveryouare. I'm onto you, and I don't even know what I'm onto you about. :smug: