K, I dunno if this should be here or in misc, so I'll let the cool moderators (honest-the best mods i've ever encountered anywhere online) figure that one out... I just wondering, are all promoters jerks who have their job description all messed up? The ones in my town are just not cool. They have decided that YOU must handle all aspects of promotion before even they'll even talk to you! they also claim to be interested in new bands, but when new bands contact them, they give 'em the shaft. Sometimes I really hate the west coast.
Musical parasites go after the fat hippo, not the skinny calf. You'll probably have to suffer through some pay-to-play gigs to make a decent name for yourself before the promoters start being nice to you. The only way they make money is if you pack the hall.
Chris pretty much hit the general overview of it. There plenty of nice promoters out there, but just as many, maybe more, who are "jerks" and oh so much more...