So here's the deal: I need to know the right course of action with this situation, because it is a crazy one. I really like this girl. She has been living with her boyfriend for over a year, and they are having major problems. Fighting about money, each other's families, she thinks he may have cheated, and he has a pot smoking problem which exacerbates all the other problems. Thing is, the guy has been a good friend of mine for a while, and I got to know her by hanging out with them obviously. When he started going out with her, I tried not to look at her like that out of respect for him. I thought she was hot, but just turned that part of my brain off cause it was my friend's girl. But lately I have been spending a lot of time with her in the evenings after work, cause he had to get a job waiting tables at night. So she was alone a lot in their house cause she doesn't have a lot of friends in the area, so I ended up coming over their house a lot and just chillin with her until he got home. Now I know my friend (the guy) trusts me completely, I could tell if he thought I had some motives for spending so much time with her. And no, I haven't tried anything with her, but I could have a couple times but didn't cause I would feel like a complete piece of ****. But over the last couple months (even before I knew they were having problems) I just started developing feelings for her, cause we had such a great time together. So lately they have had some major fights, and I have been the shoulder for her to cry on. I have tried my hardest just to be a friend and not try and sabotage my buddy, but it is getting harder and harder to do that, cause I really feel something for her. As of right now, they are on the brink of splitting, and I am sitting on the side as her friend and waiting to see what happens. But my question is this: When do I tell her what's on my mind? I am going to have to at some point, even if it means I ruin my friendship with both of them, I can't just let it consume me and prevent me from getting on with my life, because right now that's what it's doing. Should I wait until they are absolutely done and then do something, or just tell her now? I know she has enough on her mind right now, but I also don't want to be passive and let it go when that might cause her to continue in an unhappy situation. I don't want to betray my buddy, but I also don't want to sit by and do nothing when I really like this girl and think she might feel the same way.