After I was divorced seven years ago, our daughter has lived with me until last year, mostly because her mother has BPD and isn't easy to get along with. Last year our daughter wanted to try to live with her mother and her new husband 60 miles away in the city of Rockford Illinois, and I agreed that she could try, for the most part because she wasn't doing well in the small town school she attended and had few friends at home because we lived on a farm. After reaching an agreement with my ex-wife and her husband and writing it up to make it legal, our daughter, 13 years old at the time, went to live with them and she has done much better in school this past year and has made lots of friends BUT... she isn't getting along with her mother and now, of course, she misses living with her dad, just like she missed living with her mom up until last year. After some months of contemplation and numerous discussions with my daughter and eventually with my ex-wife and her husband, I decided to move to Rockford a few miles from their house so that our daughter could continue to go to the same school that she now attends and can also spend time with both me and her mother nearly every day, instead of the Mon-Fri with her mom and Sat-Sun with me as it has been (which usually SUCKS for children of divorced parents). I signed a lease for an apartment a few days ago for the 1st of April and yesterday put in my notice at the place I've worked for the past 11 years and I've also had to quit the martial arts class where I've been training for the past year and a half (I'll really miss the place, the instructor is old school work ethic with modern, hard-core impact fighting methods). I'll still be able to play in my current band but I'll have to commute to practice once a week an hour each way. I'll be spending the next few weeks making phone calls and pounding pavement to secure a new job and from the huge number of decent listings I find by typing in "rockford jobs" on the interweb, I don't expect to have any problems finding one. For me, moving from the country to the city is such an unlikely concept (I hate crowds of people and detest driving in traffic with a passion usually reserved for heads of state) and the only reason I'm doing it is to provide the best upbringing I can to my daughter given the situation as it exists with her parents split up and which she didn't ask for. I guess the purpose of this post is to ask for comments from people who've done this themselves-- quit their jobs and moved to another city or town in order to be closer to their kids-- and to get some insight from anyone with an opinion on this.