Quit Your Band!

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by The Golden Boy, May 22, 2005.

  1. So...

    Have you ever noticed whenever there's any sort of friction or tension or problem in their band that someone brings up, regardless of how trivial it is, someone has to say- "Time to look for another band!"

    It's amusing.

    How many people are the "I'm taking my ball and going home" type, and how long have these people been in bands?
  2. Josh Ryan

    Josh Ryan - that dog won't hunt, Monsignor. Staff Member Supporting Member

    Mar 24, 2001
    I should have quit my band LONG before I did. I called the "singer"/guitar players bluff and eventually did in the end. I'm not the 'take my ball and go home" type at all, in my case it was years overdue.
  3. eric234

    eric234 Guest

    Mar 11, 2005
    i don't have a band so i don't have to worry about it :D
  4. Only


    Sep 8, 2002
    Warrensburg, MO
    There are only two reasons to be in a band.

    1. It's fun.
    2. You're getting paid.

    If you can't claim one of those, what reason do you have to make you want to stay in any band?
  5. eric234

    eric234 Guest

    Mar 11, 2005
  6. xcental34x


    Feb 28, 2003
    Memphrica, TN
    I finally quit my band after I saw no more point in me being in the band. It stopped being fun long before, I felt like I was being used by the band, and my friends agreed it was best for me to quit. Since quitting, I've never been happier. It was a load of stress off my shoulders.

  7. snake


    Jul 21, 2004
    Aurora. CO
    I quit my last band in February. http://www.idsolutions.com/HYPNICTWITCH/main.html When I joined the band in January 2001, I thought they had great potential and we could be really good. After time though, jobs and family got in the way for some members. I'm not saying that those aren't good reasons, but one of the guitar players said he didn't have time to practice at home and he would practice his solos as the female singer was singing during band practice. Though he did always have time to learn the new songs he wanted to play. This was the last straw and I left the band. I still like everyone in the band and I went to their first gig after I left and talked to their new bass player. (I didn't tell him I was the old bassist.) This band would practice on average once a month (if lucky) and gig maybe twice a year. I needed more activity.
    I joined a new band that's much more active. http://www.thedukestreetkings.com I'm much happier bass player now.
  8. Interesting thread. I've quit two bands. The first was due to heavy drug use on the part of the other members. I've got no problem with other people ruining their lives, but the dealer started coming to practice with enough crap to get us all sent up the river.

    The second time was over hassle. I had just started a new job and found out that my wife was pregnant. Members started making a few complaints about my schedule. A few discussions made it clear that this was a bigger issue than I needed at the time, so I left. This might fall into the "take your ball and go home" category, but I didn't think so at the time.

  9. +1
    I should have quit my band a year before I did. I have no regrets quiting the band I was in, the guitarist quit when I told him that I had. I started the band and pretty much ended it. The drummer and singer had a little ego problem and thought they could do everything their way and ignore what the guitarist and I had to say. But oh well.... I've gotten 5 band offers and they are still looking for replacements. Good luck to them! lol, I certainly don't care what they do :D
  10. Its strange. I've only ever quit one band in the 20 years I've been gigging.

    One of the things I find really good at keeping a band together and on the right track is to actually be friends.

    My band goes out together for dinner sometimes, we all know each others partners well and include them on our social occasions etc.

    I know from reading posts around here that some guys don't really socialise with their bandmates, but I do and have found that it really helps the band stay focussed and also means its easier to work through any differences that may arise.
  11. MJ5150

    MJ5150 Terrific Twister

    Apr 12, 2001
    Lacey, WA
    I don't play music professionally, just for fun. Key word there is fun.

    I have never quit a band myself, but I have asked other members to leave when I felt like it was no longer fun. I was pretty much the "leader" of each band, so I would ask the guys not having fun to leave. In the four years I have been playing, I have played in four bands total. Sometimes, a couple bands were going at the same time. I've stayed with the same drummer the whole time. We are the only two who just want to play for fun once or twice a month. I keep getting stuck with guys who want to rule the world with music.

  12. Brad Barker

    Brad Barker Supporting Member

    Apr 13, 2001
    berkeley, ca
    apparently, before i joined the band, whenever there was an argument between the drummer and whoever else, the drummer would shout, "that's it! i'm starting a solo project!"


    and, on topic, i quit the band because of college. ...i should probably get around to telling them that i'm not going to play with them again, too. :meh:
  13. Beefbass

    Beefbass Guest

    Feb 4, 2001

    I'll second this, ESPECIALLY with point #1.

    When it's no longer any fun, and it becomes a pain in the a**, it's time to go.
  14. wulf


    Apr 11, 2002
    Oxford, UK
    I did recently (see the replace me thread for more background). I'd love to help the guys in the band find someone else to replace me and I've not had a lot of responses yet, so if you're around London, UK and are looking for a bass friendly gig (I've discovered plenty of new words in the dictionary of groove while playing with them) head over there to find out more and drop me a line :D

  15. Aaron Saunders

    Aaron Saunders

    Apr 27, 2002
    I was in a band situation where it was not paying (at all,) and hadn't been fun for a long time. I had to stay in it for a couple of months after it hit the "this totally sucks" point, because we were in a focus program at school where the band was necessary for me to get the mark (think the ensembles class in a music program at university.) After that semester was over, the drummer and I had taken enough of the guitarist's crap and quit. The band fell apart not long after.
  16. wulf


    Apr 11, 2002
    Oxford, UK
    How about a third reason - you're learning? Sometimes there are situations where it can be hard work (ie. not always feeling like fun) and low pay (/ unpaid) but where it's worth sticking around because of what you're learning through it. Especially for someone in the early stages of learning an instrument, it's good to take on a wide range of opportunities, which build both your appreciation for a range of music beyond your normal listening and your experience of dealing with all sorts of people and situations.

  17. Wesley R

    Wesley R Supporting Member

    a lot for many different styles of bands, so when I left it wasn't so much quitting or getting fired. It was more a matter of I was temp and usually we had a defined time and date of my departure, I did get fired once but the guy that quit was over his peeve and wanted back.

    I quit one and took the guitarist with me, we were together for about 5 years, worked out well.

    Wesley R.
  18. P. Aaron

    P. Aaron Supporting Member