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Quitting a band tomorrow

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Indexed, Nov 20, 2017.

  1. Indexed


    Aug 24, 2016
    Houston, TX
    Going to give my notice tomorrow after rehearsal, promising to play that last booked gig. I'm wanting to go in a different musical direction, get back to rock/R&B/Motown/blues. I truly wish those guys success and look forward to attending gigs as a spectator who loads up the tip jar.
    ------- segue ------
    Ok, I'm done with playing Wagon Wheel. I'm done with telling you where to plug your XLR cables into the mixer after I've placed a laminated chart next to it. I'm done with hearing the drummer ask "How does this go?" I'm done with a rhythm guitarist getting tanked and forgetting lyrics mid-song. I'm done with getting to load-in early so that lead guitarist can make a fashionably late appearance. I'm done with providing batteries, extension cords, mics and cables to those who can't be bothered to look out for themselves. I'm done with putting up the charts so that you can criticize, play a different arrangement, then not update them.

    tl;dr: It's time to move on. To playing music I like and before I become *that guy* who expects more than the others are willing to deliver. It still feels weird.
  2. Torrente Cro

    Torrente Cro

    Sep 5, 2013
    Do it. I was sorry for a while but found much better band and much better people.
  3. Stumbo

    Stumbo Wherever you go, there you are. Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 11, 2008
    Cali Intergalactic Mind Space - always on the edge
    Song Surgeon slow downer software- full 4 hour demo
    1) Or you could just stop doing all that you do. Give them an "as of" date and just take care of yourself.
    2) Or ask for 2 shares of the pay. :thumbsup:

    Good luck with your new band.
    Last edited: Nov 21, 2017
  4. do it, and wish them the best luck with an ironic smile... and make sure they catch your ironic smile :thumbsup:
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  5. twinjet

    twinjet CFM-equipped Moderator Staff Member Gold Supporting Member Supporting Member

    Sep 23, 2008
    So, do I read this right? The squeaky wagon wheel isn't getting the grease?
  6. Indexed


    Aug 24, 2016
    Houston, TX
    Did that already, hasn't changed anything.
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  7. QORC


    Aug 22, 2003
    Elberon, New Jersey
    you have valid cause, clearly
  8. Sounds like my previous band!
    My song was mustang sally.
    Stage fright caused the guitarist to drink way to much ,drummer would always slide in at the very last moment,husband and wife vocalists (husband was a subpar singer)! Ugh!
    I had a lot of history with some of them, so I was reluctant to leave. One year later I'm so much happier! Current band is made of pro players, no drinking or bickering. Music is tight,everyone knows their parts and pulls their own weight!
    Life is short,do what makes you happy! Good luck!
    Last edited: Nov 21, 2017
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  9. two fingers

    two fingers Opinionated blowhard. But not mad about it. Gold Supporting Member

    Feb 7, 2005
    Eastern NC USA
    Sounds like you made an effort to make it work. You not only leave, but do it with a clean conscience.

    Best of luck with whatever is next.
  10. neddyrow

    neddyrow Captain of Team Orange Jacket

    Apr 21, 2011
    Cortland, NY
    you just triggered me!

    i was brought back to all the bad band issues i've ever had.

    you should quit....as someone who has walked away from similar situations, i can speak from experience.

    it gets better!
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  11. Indexed


    Aug 24, 2016
    Houston, TX
    Thanks, all. I'm putting 100% into prep for the final show & swan song, then it's back to challenging, fun music.
  12. JACink


    Mar 9, 2011
    Do you have a beater bass that you could use for the last song?

    You play an amazing last show, pull out the beater bass for the last song, nail it and then do the bass equivalent of a mic drop.
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  13. Spidey2112


    Aug 3, 2016
    Not in a band, currently... how fortunate are those who find the right mix of people, making what seems to be 'work', effortless...

    ... one of my favorite phrases... 'When everybody's working, ain't nobody working that hard.'
  14. Spidey2112


    Aug 3, 2016
    THAT would be hilarious...
  15. Wesley R

    Wesley R Supporting Member

    I cannot tolerate "fashionably late appearance" could be some deep seated psychological issue. It appears as if you gave it a good solid effort, and maybe if others had stepped up at least some you might not have to leave, yet they failed. My thought would be to leave nicely, but definitely leave.
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  16. Indexed


    Aug 24, 2016
    Houston, TX
    If I can do that before the first of the five Jimmy Buffett songs in our set list, then count me in for making it look like a Who encore.
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  17. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Looking for a gig around East Islip, NY!

    Jan 13, 2008
    Long Island, NY.
    Hadn't heard that phrase in awhile, but it's a good one.
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  18. Spidey2112


    Aug 3, 2016
    I'm sure I didn't create it, but I'll take credit for it, here and now... :laugh:.
  19. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Looking for a gig around East Islip, NY!

    Jan 13, 2008
    Long Island, NY.
    There's no shame in packing it up if the band isn't working for you. I've been doing it a lot lately as it has been hard to find players who "get it." On the rare occasion that I have found good players, they would often allow one or two bad seeds to continue to exist in the group, which would ultimately drag us down.

    Good luck!
  20. mikeyjm2

    mikeyjm2 Keepin' it simple.

    Dec 31, 2014
    Houston, TX
    Life is too short to play in a band that doesn't make you happy.
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