I'm really not looking for "advice" on this one, more like I just want to get this out there, see how ridiculous it looks when it is all typed out proper. Maybe some of your replies will shame me into doing "the right thing"; I don't know. More than anything I just want to talk because I never have the opportunity. I am just about 42 (years of age). My mother (in the last few years) has re-antiquated herself with a man she knew many years ago (30+), when we still lived in Massachusetts. He lives up North, she lives down South. My mother will be retiring from the post office next year. When she does so, she plans to move this man (let's call him Ross) down South to live with her. (My mother and I live about 20 mins apart, FWIW) Yay, happy days. My mom has never really been happy AFAIK, so I told her I was happy for her. Last month, she went up to visit him; and told me she would be bringing some of his things down here with her when she came back. Come to find out, some of the items she brought back included a vintage Marshall guitar amp, a Peavey t-60 guitar, a Washburn acoustic guitar, various PA equipment. So Ross is a guitarist. This is a little odd, because absolutely NO ONE in my family has any talents or skills or hobbies. No One (except me). This past weekend, she flew Ross down here and had a cookout so people could meet him. She sent me an email saying: "<Ross> will be here from July 11 till July 18. I am having a cookout on the 12th for everyone to meet him. He is really looking forward to meeting you and playing a song or two. I know with your and Maria’s schedule it won’t be easy, but whenever you can make it out, that would be wonderful." *** do you mean he wants to play a song or two? What is this? So obviously I did not respond to the email, and did not go. I will not be going to see him this week while he is down here, and I will not be answering any of my mothers calls/texts. If she wants him to come down and live with her; that's fine it's her life. I seriously thought I was done meeting my mothers' boyfriends 30 years ago. It took me 20+ years to finally warm up to the arsehole she married when we moved down here; and he's been gone 4 or 5 years now; and I know of at least 3 men my mother has been with in that time. Whatever. It's just -- why did she pick a guitarist? Doesn't she realize that means I will probably never be able to see her again? I get enough judgement around TalkBass, I don't need an actual person looking at me and saying "Oh here's another one of those posers- This kid has thousands of dollars of gear and can't carry a tune in a bucket".