Wondering if others out there have had similar experiences: I joined my current band in January 2011. Weekend warrior type cover band, but experienced musicians; at 43 I am the youngest. Rock and blues, anything from 1965 to 2005. Five-piece, vocals & guitar/harp/keys, lead and rhythm guitar, bass, drums. The band has gone through the following personnel: 2 bass players including me 2 lead vocalists 2 lead guitar players 4 drummers 1 rhythm guitar - he is the only founding member left (nice guy and a decent player). Everyone has been basically good people, no jerks or addicts. The story: Original bass player was in two bands, plus he liked to do jam nights, and he had a family and a day job. He could not devote enough practice time to the music so his playing deteriorated to the point where they canned him. I am his replacement. The band has always been very happy with me. Original drummer was an older fella, I never met him. I was told that he was rock solid but had some trouble with endurance due to his age. He went on vacation one summer and when he got back he didn't want to be in a band anymore. Second drummer was with the band when I joined. He had a good sense of the pocket but his meter was terrible and he tended to forget the beginning and ending of songs. He showed no improvement and so he got canned. Found another drummer in a couple weeks. He was a decent player but was unreliable, showed up late, bailed on practices, we canned him. Found drummer number four in a couple weeks. He is the best drummer we have had and he does backing vocals which is a plus. He has experience, connections, PA gear, just what you want in a band. Original lead guitar player was the classic stubborn big ego type. Phenomenal lead player with a tendency to extend his solos but had trouble playing basic recognizable licks straight up. When drummer number four joined he called out the lead player for things that we had let slide. That didn't go over well. Lead player threatened to quit several times, eventually we had enough and canned him this winter. His replacement is not nearly as skilled a player, though his playing is more tasteful. It is taking him a long time to learn some of the material. This frustrated our lead vocalist. Original vocalist had health problems and was from out of town, got tired of driving in for practice, joined a band more local to him and quit just days before we had a gig, which we had to cancel. (The venue we were supposed to play went out of business a few months later.) It then took several months to find someone who had a decent voice and could actually recognize pitch and sing in key. He stuck around until this week when he up and quit, citing the inability to commit due to life issues. But really he doesn't get along well with the current lead guitar player and ran out of patience. So here I stand, I've been in this band over 2 years and we have gigged 6 times in that stretch. Every time we get a new member it takes at least a few weeks to get them up to speed and then inevitably there are a few songs which they can't hack so we have to dump them and then we all must learn the new songs which takes several more weeks. Me, I can learn songs in a week, everyone else seems to take much longer. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing by sticking with this. I'm not interested in forming up a second band from scratch, one is enough. I feel like I could step into a band that is much more together and fit right in but my options are limited, in my area there just aren't many established bands looking for bass players. Do I hang in there or do I start spreading my wings? Both? Thanks for reading.