This is a spinoff from another thread which the OP implied that it was rude for the band to turn down drinks from the bar. Here is the breakdown of my band. 4 piece band: Me - Sober. As in recovering alcoholic/addict. I have no business putting chemicals of any kind in my body. Rhythm Guitarist - Drinks sometimes but not on the gig while we are working. He feels that he wouldn't drink on another job so he shouldn't drink on this one. Lead Guitarist - Sober but not due to substance abuse issues, just doesn't drink for personal reasons and if he did, says he wouldn't drink on the job anyway. Vocalist - Drinks too much. Constantly on the gig and has a steady stream going his way from bar owner and patrons because none of the rest of us drink so he gets all of our drinks too. My question is is it really rude for us to decline drinks when we are all sober and should we discourage the drinks from even being given to the singer? I admit that several times people look offended when I decline their drink offers, even after I explain that I am a recovering alcoholic (in a bar no less). But I don't want all the excess drinks going to the singer for obvious reasons. How would or do you handle these situations?