Should I quit my band that barely practices

No. I suggest finding another guitar player and start scheduling practices with him/her.

If the current guitarist can't make it, fire him.

Alternatively, fire yourself and the bass player and start a new band.

 

I've been held hostage too many times.

Whose to say he's not already in another band and just stringing (pun intended) you along?

You really don't have s "band". Where are the gigs? Set lists? Social media?

I'd start looking for another guitar player now.

BTW, who is the lead singer?

 

No, but I’d quit a band that didn’t gig....

 

If your considering leaving, and your TB name is your actual name, I’d first change your TB name. Or else you may find yourself having the choice made for you.

That being said, if a band doesn’t rehearse or gig, is it actually a band?

 

That’s not a band....

 

If you don’t gig, it’s not a band. If you don’t rehearse, it’s not even a social. Get with players who want to play.

 

The is no musician's law or unwritten rule that says you can't be in more than one band, especially if one of them rarely rehearses or gigs.

 

I was in a band that rehearsed about 5 times in 5 years. We gigged every weekend, and sometimes during the week.

 

For problems like that there is only one solution!

Fire the drummer!

Wise(b)ass

 

Rehearse every couple of months, no gigs, how is that a band?

 

Nothing more annoying than when others don't want to play as much as you, I've been there too...
You and the bass player, as said above, simply need to walk away & find others with the same commitment and goals as you.
A ready made up and running rhythm section is a pretty desirable commodity remember!

 

Absolutely. Although I understand the OP's point, he needs to make a distinction between practice and rehearsal. My current cover band virtually never rehearses, but individually we practice every day and we put together new material right on stage. To do this though you need the right players with the right work ethic and skills.

 

My advice is find another band or make other practices with another guitarist, while not leaving the other band in the meantime. To give you more options.

 

The issue is how often you play. I play in a band that has about three rehearsals a spring to go over new songs, and prepare for a year of gigs. If you aren't gigging or rehearsing, who cares how good he is?

 

There is no band. You have not yet reached a crossroads. Change vehicles or die of old age in a gas station.

 

a lot of guitarists are better than an absent one

 

"It's not you... it's... us.". Just don't do it in a nice restaurant...

 

A drive thru MacDonald's would be my choice and make sure HE buys the supersized meals BEFORE you tell him.