I'll try to be as unbiased about this as I can, (try not to defend myself.) I work from before sun up to sometimes 6 or 7 pm. I also work the weekends part time, from 7am to 3 pm. . Reasons being so the wife can be at home and raise the kids and pay no babysitting. We have one car...I have it all the time. She's literally stuck at home as well. I practice wednesday and sunday nights. So far I've cancelled 3 practices because I couldn't make it...because she and I got into it about spending time at home. Last night it happened again. For 2 weeks, she had know that it was the night we were to begin recording a demo cd. Each band member had went and spent a bt a money for new equipment so that we can sound as best as we can. This was the only forseeable night to do this for at least 2 weeks....again, she knew this. So anyways...I tell her that I would like to leave a half hour early to get there and setup., 4:30 pm. She then proceeds to tell me that we had been invited to go to her sisters house for a cookout and that she wants all of us to go...which includes me. I remind her what's going on and that' was the end of it....argument on! It gets verbally ugly...ultimately I have no ride to practice...I call the singer, who lives near me for a ride. He has no voice so he isn't going...(no big deal the rest of us coulda laid tracks.) So I still have no ride...she dosn't want to go out of her way to drop me off...besides she dosn't want me to go period. So...practice was cancelled. I really don't know why I even try. Ever since I started the band thing...which is right about the time her and I met...there has been nothing but troubles about it. Always the same argument that I don't spen denough time at home. I'm there 5 nights a week...some 6. She wants a car..( I understand, so do I). She also wants me home from work at a regular time. Not gonna happen cuz I work at FedEx...each day is different...depends on what I have to deliver. So...since FedEx is my bread and butter...the part time is needed as well. the only thing that I have direct control over to free up time is the band...so I'm thinking of quitting cuz it's just gotten to hard. Does anyone have any adfvice to help us out? What have ya'll done to aid in getting your girl to be kosher with your bass playing?