Should I tell them I quit the band?

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Mantis Tobaggan, Oct 13, 2016.

  1. I went and got my stuff after they fired the drummer without telling me. Technically, I guess we are a band looking for a drummer but are we even a band? I was with these guys for about 4-5 years. My Ampeg fridge is in my living room right now. I really don't feel like having this conversation but I guess I should call someone and tell them I am done right?
  2. dtripoli


    Aug 15, 2010
    Should you call them?
    Yes and no.
    Yes, because you made a decision and it effects them. If they like your playing they'll probably talk you back into staying.
    No, because they never called you about their decision. If they like your playing they'll probably call you and talk you back into staying.
    Now that your amp is out of there, you are available for new band opportunities.
    This is why I use a PortaFlex PF500 and 1x15 cab. It goes home with me every night.
  3. ASQTec

    ASQTec Above Average

    May 2, 2010
    Rise above the situation by showing them how an adult behaves. Tell them you quit, and then move on.
  4. elgecko


    Apr 30, 2007
    Anasleim, CA
    I'd text at the very least but maybe that's just me.
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  5. It seems he was that good (to you).
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  6. brbadg


    Nov 10, 2006
    When you got your stuff,did you like say anything ?
    I hate the fact they didn't respect you enough to tell you.
    That would make me think they don't want me either. That's just me.
    I never really understood why the non bassists feel we aren't necessary until they need us.
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  7. The decision making was definitely unilateral. I was treated like basically an unpaid sideman and i dont feel like going forward without our drummer.
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  8. Nev375


    Nov 2, 2010
    Yes, call them and inform them that you have quit. That much is professional courtesy. If they ask why simply don't elaborate. It doesn't serve your needs to give them reasons, it only helps them. Frankly, they don't deserve an explanation. It's their problem. Let them figure out why they are down a whole rhythm section instead of just a drummer.
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  9. SteveC

    SteveC Moderator Staff Member Supporting Member

    Nov 12, 2004
    NE ND
    Always take the high road. Give them a call and say you're done. Try not to burn never know when paths will cross again and you don't want a bad rep. People talk.
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  10. CGremlin


    Nov 1, 2014
    Palm Bay, FL
    I'd call them and let them know, and if they ask explain why. Don't volunteer any info, don't be angry, and be as diplomatic as you can. It's just like leaving any other job, IMO.
  11. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    Like Steve and Nev said - have the conversation but keep it really short - as in: "Effective immediately, I am done". No reasons or excuses necessary. Text or email if necessary.
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  12. LT131


    Jan 25, 2015
    Deep South
    Why would you not tell them? Just a conversation and, who knows, maybe things will work out, you may learn something or at least you will know you did the correct thing. If it turns antagonistic then at least you tried.
  13. bearfoot

    bearfoot Inactive

    Jan 27, 2005
    Chittenango, NY
    No, verbal communication can be ambiguous. Be a professional - go back to the practice space, pop a squat, and leave a strong message.
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  14. Killed_by_Death

    Killed_by_Death Snaggletooth Inactive

    Think of all the money you'll save if you're no longer Paying for the Pleasure of playing.
  15. pcake

    pcake Supporting Member

    Sep 20, 2011
    Los Angeleez
    i would let them know i was no longer part of the band and if they want to know why, the above is exactly what i'd tell them. firing a band member without involving all the other band members is more than high handed imo - it's outrageous.
  16. levis76

    levis76 Defender of the Low Ender Supporting Member

    Apr 14, 2007
    Metro Detroit
    Call the band leader, whomever that may be, and tell him you are done. You don't have to say why, just that you are done. You have your gear, so you're good.

    Then maybe call that drummer and see what he's got goin' on, eh?
  17. bassbully

    bassbully Endorsed by The PHALEX CORN BASS..mmm...corn!

    Sep 7, 2006
    Blimp City USA
    I just quit a band and told them in person. It's better than telling somebody by email or text. At least call them.
  18. Wesley R

    Wesley R Gold Supporting Member

    Grab the drummer start your own band. I did something similar then stole their gigs by being honest, more professional and a better band.
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  19. Gasman

    Gasman Supporting Member

    Apr 9, 2007
    South Carolina
    I have always quit in person, but that's just me. At least a phone call is warranted given the time you've been in. Don't burn bridges.
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  20. Killed_by_Death

    Killed_by_Death Snaggletooth Inactive

    I'm not great at conflict, so I'd probably just move in the middle of the night.