Singer Has Covid

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by cassanova, Jul 22, 2021.

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  1. cassanova


    Sep 4, 2000
    The singer for the original project I'm involved with has covid, but isn't telling anyone. I only found out through his wife. The others in the group don't know he's got it. I'm facing a moral conundrum. It's not my place to disclose other people's health information, but at the same time I feel they have a right to know so they can decide for themselves on if they want to show up for rehearsal tomorrow night or not. One is not vaccinated, the other is immune compromised. Even though I'm fully vax'd, will not be going until he sheds the virus.
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  2. Gothic


    Apr 13, 2008
    This is highly irresponsible. Almost maliciously stupid, really. Tell him straight that you know and, unless he at least cancels, you're telling the rest of the band. I understand your conundrum but people can be put in danger here.
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  3. nutdog

    nutdog when I'm a good dog they sometimes throw me a bone

    Feb 19, 2009
    in the dog house
    I’d tell.
  4. AGCurry

    AGCurry Supporting Member

    Jun 29, 2005
    St. Louis
    In general, it's unethical to gossip, even if the gossip is true. When lives and health are at stake, it is unethical not to.
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  5. Imagine the conundrum you'll face if one of your bandmates gets sick or even dies. You may have found out "accidentally" but not saying anything puts you in a position of liability, IMO. It would be irresponsible not to tell your bandmates. I would tell the singer I know and that I intend on telling the others. If he has a problem with that I would have no problem walking. Very selfish of him to put others in this position. Just my 2 drachma.
  6. Lesfunk

    Lesfunk Bootlegger guitars : S.I.T. Strings Supporting Member

    Apr 5, 2007
    Florida USA
    I’d tell everyone right now.
    It’s crazy to keep something like that a secret
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  7. J_Bass

    J_Bass Supporting Member

    Feb 7, 2008
    Porto, Portugal
    In my country that is a crime.

    "Propagation of disease", is the term.

    I would tell.
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  8. dalkowski

    dalkowski It's "rout," not "route." Supporting Member

    May 20, 2009
    Massachusetts USofA
    Damn straight the others have a right to know. If you're worried about tanking the project, maybe worry more about the integrity of one of the people you've signed on with. (The fact that the singer won't cop to his illness makes my blood boil.)

    Good luck, stay well.
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  9. bass12

    bass12 Have You Met Grace Jones? Supporting Member

    Jun 8, 2008
    Montreal, Canada
    I would give the singer an option: either he lets the other band members know about his condition or you do.
  10. cassanova


    Sep 4, 2000
    I told him I know. Been leaning on the side of telling the others, but like your idea better. I'll tell him he's got until the end of the day to inform the others or I will.

    He knows I know. Told him that already. As I said above, I've been leaning towards the side of telling them, and going to give him the choice to tell them by end of the day or I will. I really couldn't live with myself if one of them got it and died, and I could've done something to prevent it. It's not who I am.
  11. Sunlight= best disinfectant.
    Shout it out loud,.....if there's 'cover under darkness' happening.
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  12. gln1955

    gln1955 Supporting Member

    Aug 25, 2014
    Ohio, USA
    Why would the singer not tell the other members? What is wrong with people? :banghead:
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  13. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    such is the conundrum.
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  14. Hummergeist

    Hummergeist Commercial User

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    Your solution sounds good, as long as you're prepared for him to kick off once you give him the ultimatum. Could lead to even worse behaviour. I'd tell you band mates first and/or include him on a group email. There will be fallout either way.
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  15. DirtDog


    Jun 7, 2002
    The Deep North
    Give him a choice: "You tell them or I tell them. If I have to tell them, I'm done with this project."
  16. JRA

    JRA my words = opinion Gold Supporting Member

    possibly self-consciousness/embarrassment by way of:
    - political views
    - religious views
    - (anti) vax views
    - combinations of the above
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  17. cassanova


    Sep 4, 2000
    I think that would've been a better way to pose this thread. How to deal with the fallout? He's a lifelong friend of over 30 years, so I'm sure he's going to feel betrayed, and get extremely angry.
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  18. dangevans

    dangevans Guest

    Mar 26, 2014
    Regardless of anyone's opinion about the virus, he should tell all of you guys, and if not, you need to inform them.
  19. 51PRI


    Aug 7, 2014
    This is the kind of thing that happens with the wives get involved. Now you know something that the singer (obviously) doesn't want you or the rest of the band to know, because his wife went behind his back and you found out. How exactly DID you find out? Call the guy's wife. Tell her she has to make him tell the band. Is he quarantining?
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  20. groovaholic

    groovaholic Protect your hearing. Supporting Member

    Sep 19, 2004
    Mount Prospect, IL
    I can tolerate people taking chances with their own lives and health (i.e. not wearing a seatbelt) but I draw the line when they risk other people's lives and health.

    You've given him the opportunity to "save face" - if he doesn't take that opportunity, he's being cavalier with the life of your immunocompromised bandmate, and risking someone ELSE's life is 100% a D!CK move.
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