This is really off topic, but I've been a member on her awhile and really value what can be found talking to folks with life experiences. It will be long, so thanks in advance. I am Active Duty in the military. Was married and have to kids (10 and 8). We divorced, and my ex moved back to Ohio, I am in California. The distance sucks, I call every day and FaceTime also. She will not answer when I call often, and there will be periods of 4 to 5 days not in contact. She told me that "I'm not a good father, you are not there enough for them". Needless to say, I feel like everything is coming unhinged. My kids are everything to me, and I feel like my hands are tied. It is hard to save up to fly them out. Is being a good Dad possible with the contact I have?. When I do have the kids, I make it a point to have them call their Mom everyday. Am I unreasonable to expect she does the same? I'm going between anger and feeling like my hands are tied. Part of me wants to call up and cuss her out, but that will not solve anything. I have a feeling that she is instilling these feelings in them. Her dad made zero efforts to be in her life, it feels like I am being compared to him. Wall of text, but thanks for taking the time.